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writes:About six months ago after quite along time of being single I decided to try internet dating. After about 4 dates I met a guy who lived about an hour away and hit it off immediatley and from then on saw each other every weekend. It was the Summer and I must admit I really fell for him, thinking he had all the qualities I was looking for. Anyway after about a month of dating we started to have a sexual relationship and we talked about contraception and I said I wasnt on the pill but he didnt want to use a condom so we decided to just have sex at infertile times but we both agreed if I got pregnant it wouldnt be such a bad thing as we both wanted children. Anyway 2 months ago I found out I was pregnant. At first I was really excited, I'm 36 and have no children and had started to worry that I would never have them. However recently I have started to see cracks in my relationship with the father. He seems to have changed, letting himself go physically and being more argumentative. I just feel like I have gone off him. We went on holiday recently for a few days and I was glad to get back as everything he did irritated me and even his strong mancunian accent is now starting to really irritate me. Anyway we had an argument today and I have decided its over. I'm now 8 weeks pregnant, and starting to show, suffering from morning sickness and wondering whether to terminate the pregnancy. I'm just worried that if I terminate, I might not ever conceive again, or will I always be thinking about the unborn child. On the other hand I feel it would erase my problems and give me the chance to get back to my life and have the chance to meet the man of my dreams who I can be happy with. Its such a dilemma, I just dont know what to do, my family think termination is best but I just dont know if it will mess with my emotions too much. Any advice would be appreciated. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Keep the baby.
Im in the same situation... im 2 months prgnant and bf doesnt want the baby! we meet 2 months ago on facebook! now he doesnt answer my call nor reply my sms! well ive decided to keep the baby and move on with my life without him! so you should do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): PLEASE do not have an abortion! 1. it will haunt you 2. it might cause health problems 3. it is a child that will die 4. there is always adoption which will allow the baby to grow up and have a life 5. you will love this child the moment you see it's beautiful face.
new life is a happy thing. congratulations
Abby 15
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Have the baby. At 36, you may not be able to have more. Once the baby is born if you are still unsure, you can put the child up for adoption.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I think you should keep the baby.
think of it this way:
You have a termination. You get on with your life, you meet a man, fall in love, get married..but you cannot conceive. How would that feel? You would have had a chance to be a mother and you gave that up.
Instead:
Have the baby. Once you have it, you WILL love it with all your heart and it will be the best feeling ever. There are lot of men out there who will date a woman with kids, its not the 1920's! And you will never, EVER regret giving up the chance of becoming a mother.
As for the babys father, he doesnt have to be your bf. Make sure he provides for and sees the baby as he should but other wise you should not have to have anything to do with him.
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