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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:recently ive been recording me and my girls conversations without her knowing. i do this so i can play them back later and analyze what she said. should i tell her about this or would that seem sketchy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Okay, the first thing that comes to mind is that it sounds like you are obsessed and bordering on stalking her. You really need to stop this.
I definately wouldnt tell her because she will probably be very freaked out. It sounds like you are so insecure that you feel you need to analyze what she says. Dont! You are still young and have so much learning still to do. What you think she means by what she says, it probably the complete opposite of what she actually thinks, so dont even try it.
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female
reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Wow,
Let me just say - you REALLY need to stop doing this. If I knew my man was doing this, I would have to let him go. That's just way too much for me. You are definitely over-analyzing this poor girl. I think you SHOULD tell her, just because she should know that everything she says is going onto record!
I'm sure you just want to make things work with your sweetheart, but this is not a good way to go about that. Stop recording, and just stick with your memory. If you need to ask her why she said something, just ask.
Good luck, sweetness...
xx India
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male
reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (9 June 2008):
 That is weird. I would advise you to seek help as this is not normal behaviour, but rather the behaviour of an irrational control freak. That aside, just STOP recording your conversations and dont tell her - she will freak.
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Personally i would be inclined to refrain from telling her that you are recording your conversations. Although you think you are doing nothing wrong, she could very well think that you were abit of a crank. Stop recording what she says and just try to remember your conversations.
Good luck
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female
reader, Fionaisme  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 I agree with the other writer. If the relationship felt good you wouldnt feel the need to analyse every conversation ye have. My advice is stop doing it and dont mention to her that you ever recorded anything as she will get freaked out.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Errrmm im not sure how to say this but, what is wrong with you? That is so creepy, why do you feel the need to do that?
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