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writes:i fancy this girl who is a year younger than me (i'm redoing my first year at college) but she already has a boyfriend. i don't know wether i should tell her or if i should get over her and if so how?
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reader, donay meendonça  +, writes (6 September 2008):
Hello,
I believe you should go and show her that you fancy her in a way that she´ll be comfortable with that.Women need men that fancy them, if you show her carefully she´ll feel like a movie star,but if you rush things you might scare her off.Don´t ever be afraid to show women that you like them and DESIRE them!
Go for broke!
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Difficult one this. Generally, I'm of the opinion that if she's with someone already then you should do the right thing and stay away. Just be a friend.
If she isn't happy then she should end it. However, having said this, she might not be happy and just be waiting to find someone better (although I NEVER understand why people do this). It happens - I've been out with girls who have boyfriends and aren't happy, unbeknownst to me, however, shortly after I found out I ended it.
A word of caution, if you do decide to tell her how you feel and she's interested then I think you need to make it clear that she'd have to stop seeing her boyfriend.
Don't get involved in any sordid affairs.
I'm of the impression if she were to dump her boyfriend for you then what's to stop her doing the same thing to you? Say someone else comes along and does the same thing with YOU as the boyfriend. Could you handle that? Would you be worried about it at all? I know if it were me I'd get jealous and feel somewhat insecure about the whole thing - could I trust her? But then that's me.
Good luck :)
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Dude if you like her tell her, it just might work out better for you, thean keeping it inside
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reader, clh91 +, writes (27 December 2007):
 i think the best thing to do would be to move on.
because it'll hurt your feelings holding on to something that you don't know whether you'll ever have and even if she becomes single she'll need time to get over the break up.
hope i helped :)
feel free to message me about anything if you wanna chat.
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Depends how much you fancy her!! All's fair in love and war, as they say ;-)
But as with everything there's a risk involved and you may get hurt, so it depends if you're prepared to take a chance.
Getting over her would entail you having to accept that the timing is wrong, as she's already involved with someone. It means having to stop entertaining any hopes of a future and moving on with your life, either on your own or with someone else who is available to be with you. Good luck!
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