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writes:ok, so I was seeing a girl who lied to me...I later found out she was married. Apparently the husband was away overseas; she has gotten back together with him and has cut off all communication with me. My question is should I email/ tell the husband? Would that be illegal? to send photos?...I have no desire to get back with her...I simply think she deserves him finding out.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (17 September 2009):
Frank b is right on this one. Snitches get stiches.Dont hate the player hate the game. She obviously loves her husband realized her mistake and thats why she cut all the communication. Its not like shes leading you on right now so get over it.Put an "H" on your chest and handle it. She got what she needed from you, and when her husband came back you were useless to her. Dont be a soar loser. The next time you get involvd make sure shes available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Dude,
Youve been played and it hurts, I hear ya.
But revenge is something that rarely turns out well. You want this guy to find out his wife has been cheating on him. So you actually want to cause him pain, and why? because she hurt you, that sounds pretty unfair.
Its their life let them live it, if shes like this all the time she will trip herself up, no help from you required.
You need to get over her and move on , focus on that and burn those photos they aint helping anyone.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 If she is willing to lie to you and dump you, has it occurred to you that she would likely be willing to lie about you in order to protect her marriage?
For example, she might accuse you of raping her if she feels you would threaten her marriage?
It terms of it being illegal, best to consult a lawyer of family law, since your motivation for doing so is malicious.
The real question is have you learned anything from this about how to screen the women you date so that you don't end up in this situation again?
-Frank Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Well I always believe that what goes around comes around. It is up to you if you want to be the one to let that guy know but similarly there may be some heat to take. If it were me I would prolly let him know (with a simple, to the point message with quite some details to validate your story) and take whatever heat that may be thrown. I know I couldn't live knowing I was taken advantage of.
Such an action is best not done out of vengeance, but rather the truth that the guy deserves. If I was that guy, I would find it very hard to believe a stranger but at least it would start raising questions in my head, and maybe it would open my eye to what I have been closing them to.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (17 September 2009):
 OF COURSE YOU TELL HIM!
THERE IS NO OTHER OPTION!
Please read my story about what happened when I caught my fiance cheating on me in my bed 3 weeks before my wedding. And then ask yourself "Would Grimm have been better served if he had known beforehand?".
The answer is obvious.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-cautionary-tale.html
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (17 September 2009):
 I would strongly advise against this. If she loves him, then she's going to tell him anyway, and if she's a philanderer, he'll find out on his own.
But outing her seems vengeful at this point. He'll hate you more than he will his wife, and she'll hate you for butting in.
If she lied to you it wouldn't be the first time a woman has deceived a man to get what she needed at the moment. Nor will it be the last.
And it will only cause troubles in your own life in the future.
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