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writes:Me and my boyfriend are going to the movies in a couple of weeks. We have been dating for two months and this is our first actual date. Iv been out to dates at resturaunts and iv met my ex s parents but iv never been to the movies on a date. am i supposed to talk to him the whole tiime or do i stay quiet. im just afraid if i do that, he will think im ignoring him or shy. which im really not! haha. but what do i need to do while im on the date? help!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 I am totally with Cerberus ! I am a mellow type but people talking in a movie theatre turns me instantly into a vicious she-devil. Date or no date, -no conversation in a movie theatre. Ever.
Plus,like other posters mention, if he invited you for a movie date... conversation is not what he is looking for...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Don't talk during a movie in the cinema, ever. I make peoples lives hell when they do that and I'm trying to watch a movie. I throw popcorn at their heads and if they don't shut up I'll even start firing spitballs at their head. There is nothing more annoying to me. If you want to talk stay at home and watch a dvd. So unless you don't mind people hurling abuse and popcorn at you, and embarrassing yourself and him then don't talk.
Besides at your age going to movies is not to actually watch the movie, it's to get frisky, so you won't be able to talk anyway.
I went on lots of dates to the movies at your age and it was never to watch the movie, you see the cinema is a loud, dark place where you can have some privacy and make out.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (17 January 2011):
 You can make a couple of comments but very quietly so he can hear. But u are there to enjoy the movie. Also keep in mind that there are other ways of communication besides talking. Make eye contact, smile, hold hands. If something scarry happens squeeze his hand. You can enjoy the movie and still show you are into him and are not shy. Hope you enjoy your date!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Movies are for watching, dinners are for talking.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Generally I'd say keep quiet during a theater movie, while the occasional (very occasional) comment during a movie at home is OK. It can be very annoying when people try to talk during movies. You can talk about it after, like go get a coffee or some food to go talk about the movie. Don't worry too much. It can seem really overwhelming beforehand, like you have to be prepared for EVERYTHING, but things will seem much more straightforward once you're actually with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): The draw back of movie dates is that they really inhibit verbal communication. They are not great for first dates.
But they can help encourage physical contact and non verbal communication.
I wouldn't talk (or make out) in a theater, but you can hold hands, lean in...that sort of thing. Don't let the formality get in the way. You are just sitting in the dark with someone you happen to be attracted to.
Have fun.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Ideally, you shouldn't talk during a movie because it's rude to all the other people in the theater. If you like, you can whisper very softly into his ear, but generally it's better to keep mostly quiet during the movie then talk about it afterward. If you two really like to talk during movies, this works very well when watching a DVD at home (which can be a great date, with a bowl of popcorn and a blanket).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): well if you talk during the movie other people will get mad....and tell you to shut up im sure....so i wouldnt talk hardly at all but during the film you good point out things you like with light comments like...this part is really cool or wow the animation is great! but not much more than that...before and after talk all you want!
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