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writes:I'm really confused me and this guy I've been seeing for a year and a half (lets call him Eric) is great, i love him loads and he means the world to me he does everything in his power to make me happy. He really takes care of me. But I'm still very young and I'm feeling as if I'm missing out. I mean there is this guy, Miles, who goes to my college who studies music theory and he's incredibly sexy and he likes me and although he doesn't want to make me uncomfortable he does because i'm really atracted to him. Thing is I know I will never meet another guy like Eric. He's the best and I don't want to mess things up or break up with him in the hope Miles is as good or that one day I'll meet someone as good as Eric. My question is what should I do stay with the guy that im engaged to who is damn near close to perfect or go with the sexy music student who writes me songs? Is what I'm feeling and thinking wrong? please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): well it's obvious that you have feelings for this miles guy, because you're obviously thinking about him, to even ask this qustion.
But i think you're just enjoying new attention from another guy, and that you would regret breaking up with Eric, seeing as you describe him as perfect.
If you want to have some fun then you should go with miles, but i figure you're after a relationship, so staying out seems the best option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): if you really 'love' eric - you already know the answer.Question is becos you even ask - do u really love eric or is it just that he is a good guy which u know are not always easy to find.your move.
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reader, honesty +, writes (8 May 2007):
i say stay with eric why would u leave sumone near to perfect for a sexy one who write you love songs them songs wont be there forever and theres nothing wrong with what your thinking
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reader, forgonepath  +, writes (8 May 2007):
What we feel is never wrong or right, since mostly we have no control over how we feel. However, the question of "wrongness" comes into play when we try to act on our feelings. It is normal for you to be attracted to someone else. But you have to think about it, is it worth leaving someone who has proven himself for someone who seems nice from afar? The fact that you've been with this guy for over a year and you still think he's perfect means ALOT. Trust me not many people can say that their BF or GF is perfect. You've got a nice guy, don't mess this up. To prevent the situation from getting out of hand, you can even try being a little strict with the music kid and tell him to stop writing you songs.
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reader, perkypanda +, writes (8 May 2007):
Your problem is understandable, you are young and being engaged can make you feel a little trapped. Musicians can be tempting and exciting but those songs might not less past the first six month. Having an innocent crush now and then is ok if you remember what makes ur man so special & keep it all innocent. You knows, maybe you could casually suggest to your boyfriend that he write you a song or a poem.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 What you're feeling is normal and will happen again in your life. You're also feeling flattered by the attention from the song writer. It's really inappropriate for him to be giving your such songs. You're accepting them because it's flattering. It's also crossing a line, based on how you're attracted to him. You know you're playing with fire. Be careful, you're heading in the wrong direction.
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