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*edd_Extacy
writes:ok heres whats going on.I love my boyfriend very much and we been through a lot together.he understands me more than anybody and i understand him like no1 else..we are just alike in every way..we think the same,do the same things,and i can even tell him what he's thinking before he tells me.i feel like he's the missing piece to my puzzle! i say i've been n love before but now that i look at it, he was my first love..he took my virginity..He asked my mom could he marry me and they have a tight relationship..i love his sisters and his cousins to death..We are not together at the moment because he was getting money for his apartment from one of his tippers at work...i didnt get his side of the story before i brooke up with him,all i got was her side..we usually work things out..We plan on having getting pregnant in October and he says he needs time to get it together before he really settle down with me...What should i do? should i stay or should i go...
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reader, Redd_Extacy +, writes (3 May 2010):
Redd_Extacy is verified as being by the original poster of the question its ok i totally understood where u were coming from :)
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reader, Redd_Extacy +, writes (3 May 2010):
Redd_Extacy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for the advice and im not just going to bring a baby to this world if i cant support it.Im not doing it because i believe it will fix our relationship..our agreement was to work things out and then settle down. we may be young but our age has nothing to do with the way we feel.our families can c it.i kno where i want to be in life and my goals are still in order.a baby will hold me back but it will not stop me from becoming who i want to be.my grandmother did it,my mother did it and my sister did it.she's still in college doing what she has to do and she has 2 kids..if anything,my kid will be more motivation to be successful..i understand where you all are coming from but i also know where me and my ex stand...i understand what he's doing because we are exactly the same..we both made mistakes.we got through them and they made our relationship strong..maybe i should have put more details into the paragraph but a lot of adults believe that i am very mature for my age.i know how big of a responsibility a child is.i also know how hard it is because i take care of myself..thats y im going to do what it takes to be a good successful mother because my baby deserves the world and if I do make that decision,they will have the world and more!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 Did you break up with him because he was getting money from some woman ?.... Mmmm. That would ring an alarm bell for me too. Yet, I think that he derves being allowed to say his side of the story if you did not even want to hear it at first. Get the facts straight, then you decide.
And anyway,don't even think about getting pregnant until he is more than sure that he wants to settle down with you !
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reader, Sakuchanz +, writes (2 May 2010):
Why did he need to break up with you just for getting money?
Are you married but separated or just plan on getting pregnant? Otherwise you wait until you have that ring on your finger and after you say "I do" before even thinking about it.
If it takes a long period of time for him to "get ready to settle down with you" then leave because he'll be stringing you along to "let you down easy".
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): I dont understand. You say he's your boyfriend but you're not together and you broke up because he needs to get money for his apartment? Why did you break up? why wouldn't you want to stay?
You need to check what you've written and spellings before you post things!
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