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writes:I was in a long distance relationship and i decided to leave without any notice. I went to my college and met this guy there. Me and him hit it off great then my parents started getting annoyed with us so they kicked me out of the house and i started leaving with him and his mom after weeks of meeting. We decided to get an apartment together and thats when things started going bad but i didnt pay no attention because i kept on blaming it on stress then we found out i was pregnant...that ruined us. Hes ten years older then me..and i feel like he acts like he knows evrything. We even have to call his and my mom for every fight to see whos right! What kind of relationship is this? Its soo stupid and annoying i cant stand it and when we fight...well lets just say cops got called and i almost went to jail for making him bleed. Ive gotten hit in the face, left bruises all over my body, and left hyperventilating on the floor. Its been bad and ive gotten the bad off it. Ive maxed out both my credit cards and left my job for this guy ive got overdraft fees up the ass. just basically asked no one for help and but everything out on the line for him and his mom has done everything for him. Main question is do i stay or should i go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): this is what you have to ask yourself, does your love for him outweigh the potential of him harming you or you children should you have them. It's obvious you have done a lot for this guy would you regret letting him go?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 July 2010):
Run a mile, my girl, or next time he may well kill your baby, or kill both you and your baby.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Go,go,GO ! What kind of a sick bastard is one who hits a pregnant woman ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): No contest here I'm afraid - GO!! But first, why, oh why have you turned a short few months into such a traumatic life changing situation for yourself, and an innocent baby on the way??? The baby is the ONLY one here that cannot choose it's future, so please put this baby FIRST!
Let me get this right, you are dating guy, and then leave him without a word, not good, no one should ever leave anyone without an explanation allowing them to put their side to the relationship, and permit some kind of closure. Then you meet up with a guy at college, ten years your senior and within WEEKS are moved in and living together - ABSOLUTE MADNESS, you did NOT know this person, nor them you, and I don't know how many times I haven't said this, but DATING is just that, DATING, where you do NOT live together for a long, long time, until you know IF that person stands the test of time. Which is exactly why you have ended up in a bad relationship where it was nothing more than a quick physical attraction, without any real foundations for lasting love.
I'm sorry as I realize you must be very stressed with all this, but unless honest advice is given, by not wrapping it up in cotton wool, you may just go and date someone else and end up living with them in a few weeks, as this, I promise you, is where you have gone wrong.
If the relationship has turned physically abusive, then you should leave, and certainly NOT bring a baby into this environment that would be tragic, think of the baby please, it deserves to grow up in a safe, loving home, not in one, where his or her mother has fallen into living with a guy she hardly knows, and has no future with!
I really do hope you move out very soon, and good luck for the future and your baby.
Jilly
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