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writes:Ok here is the story I have been dating this girl for two yrs and she hasn't ever spent any real time wit me. if im lucky I get to see her lik 5 hrs every 2 weeks and she says she is busy but she will cancel or plans to make time for her friends and she hangsout with them more than me and all we do is text cuz she doesn't want to talk on the phone she is really faithful so I know she won't cheat. all I need is some advice on should I stay or should I take the high road n abandon the hoe?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): I think if you're at the stage of calling her a "hoe" it's already over :)
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 it seems like you both have no respect for each other. You referred to her as a hoe, so there is your answer break up. If my bf called me that i would dump his ass
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reader, citic101  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 She has NO respect for you ! You are wasting your time with her ! Time is the only thing you can NEVER get back. You need to have a hard look at yourself and examine why you let this situation go on for so long. Next time be more stronger and DONT accept bad behaviour ! people respect you when you say enought is enought. If you let people walk all over you dont be suprised if they call you "Door mat "
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reader, Your friend +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Two and a half hours a week with someone who really doesn't want to spend much time with you sounds like the relationship is already at an end. Find someone who can't wait till the end of the day to see you and who doesn't even want to kiss her parents because she is saving them for you.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 June 2009):
You see her for 5 hours every two weeks and only text, yet you know for certain that she's faithful? The same thing for goes for girls as it goes for guys, but I think since girls are considered "talkers" you hear about it more from girls. "She's just not that into you." If I saw my boyfriend every 2 weeks for a few hours, never wanted to talk to him on the phone, and always canceled plans--then I probably wouldn't really consider him my boyfriend.
Sure, if she made plans ahead of time and informed you, then that would be understandable; we all need our own social lives with our girlfriends. But if she's blowing you off and not communicating, then obviously this relationship you two have is not really a relationship or even close to a good one. A relationship is an obligation that we have, and if we want to be with that person, then we choose to do what we can to make the relationship work.
Definitely talk to her first before you decide to give her the boot (if you even want to continue the relationship). Women always like to know what a guy feels and what he is thinking. Don't just start pointing the finger with, "you do this and you do that." But something like, "I feel like (fill in the blank) when you do (fill in the blank)." Apparently she thinks her behavior is okay and needs a wakeup call. If you just dump her, she may not even know why you dumped her, and then that just opens up a whole new can of worms.
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reader, Wreck +, writes (29 June 2009):
 it sounds like shes playin you.. haha.. a girl that ditches you .. never has time for you?.. either that or shes just not that interested in you... screw her why you chasing her for?.. let her chase u if she even does and if she does she will feel how it is... then maybe she will have a chance with you ..
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reader, mommy2be2009 +, writes (29 June 2009):
talk to her about whats going on and how you feel about it. if nothing changes or she totaly ignores what you have to say then shes not the 1 4 you.sorry to be blunt but thats how it is. i do hope you guys can work it out though.
ashley
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