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writes:To get started, I'm 17 and my manager at work (who's a 30 year old loser, by the way) has been pushing himself on me. Saying crap like, "I love you!" or "Are you willing to date me?" Does he honestly think I'm that stupid? I find it amusing because I'm not dumb and I can see right through him from his body language. All he wants is sex. Simple sh*t. Plus I don't care for love.My aquaintance from work said I should report him and called me heartless because I wouldn't (really, "heartless"?). This brings me to my question: Should I honestly tell someone about this?
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reader, wts  +, writes (27 December 2009):
I think you are.... highly imaginative??? sorry, but kiddo it sounds like you're looking for some drama that just doesn't really exist. Surely your boss who's 30 knows better... (he IS your boss, didn't get there accidentally) Enjoy the harmless flirtation from your perspective, though, :) been there, done that :)
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reader, wts +, writes (27 December 2009):
I think you are.... highly imaginative??? sorry, but kiddo it sounds like you're looking for some drama that just doesn't really exist. Surely your boss who's 30 knows better... (he IS your boss, didn't get there accidentally) Enjoy the harmless flirtation from your perspective, though, :) been there, done that :)
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 December 2009):
Record him with your cellphone saying those things to you. Because if you report him without some kind of proof, he might be able to get them to believe him instead. But I would recommend that you talk to a lawyer and take your recording with you. The company might have to pay you damages for sexual harassment. If you report him to your bosses they will get him to stop but they will not give you anything and will convince you to forget the whole thing. Don't tell too many people about the recording and lawyer because he might get a tip off. Trust no-one. A lawyer's first meeting is free. Just look it up in the Yellow pages of your phone book.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): By a pen that will record conversations, they're not hard to find. Record at least one good clear conversation and take the recording to a lawyer. File a 'hostile workplace' claim, and have the attorney seek some money. He can share the recording with the company. Your 30 year old looser manager will be fired, and the company will pay you (and the attorny will likely get 40%+ of this) $5,000 to $10,000 to keep your mouth shut.
You'll need to money, because you'll not be working there after this either... but you'll be saving other girls from this jerk.
GO FOR IT!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Buy a mirco tape recorder. The next time he corners you, tape him in the act. Make sure you firmly tell him no. Never let him know about the recorder. He might flip out or something. If it continues, report him to his boss. And if the boss doesn't believe you, you have the tape as proof. A 30 year old man should not be comming on to you. Period.
Jeff
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reader, Tyrannosaurusgoose +, writes (24 December 2009):
i do not think you are heartless jeez.
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reader, Tyrannosaurusgoose +, writes (24 December 2009):
Report him. he might come onto others like this. he needs to be reported.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 I agree with the other posters. Tell him that he is making you uncomfortable and that you are not interested. threaten to report him him.
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reader, bojolay +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Dear Ms. Female 17,I strongly encourage you to contact an "employment attorney" the immediate area of your work and/or home residence. You should be able to get a 1 hour free counsultation. You may very likely be entitled to a large cash award and the attorney will likely take 1/3 of it. Call 3 different attorneys if you can. The amount they ask for is negotiable - you can bargain them down. People who use their superior position at work to obtain sexual favor from their subordinates violate a basic rule of civility. By doing so they put not only themselves, but the entire business at risk. You claim is not limited to the person who is harassing you. Instead, your claim includes that person and the entire business. If the business is a corporation - then you will claim harassment against them as well. The business' insurance company will step in a pay you to "settle".There is absolutely no excuse for using the work and superior position for sexual exploit. You owe it to yourself, you owe it to other people who are facing the same problem, and you owe it to society to make a claim.In the meantime, try to ignore the harassment, and don't say anything until you've spoken with your attorney.good luck,bojolay
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): I agree, warn him first.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 December 2009):
Then next time he tells you he fancies or something, say to him very clearly you are not interested and will report him. If he then continues, report him. But warn him clearly first.,
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