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writes:Me and a girl on my dorm floor have fallen into this weird pattern of one-sided oral, and I don't know what to think first off, she is HOT beau prettier than any one I have been with. Here it goes. We make out, she let's me feel her up, and ultimately she pushes my head down there and I give her oral. She does this vert roughly, grabbing my hair, slamming herself into my face, to the point where sometimes it hurts a bit. When she gets off, she zips her pants bam up and says see ya! She never touches me, does not give me oral in return, and the one toI tried to pleasure myself while giving her oral, she made me stopShe has told all her girlfriends about this. I see them snickering at me. One even said, "oh yeah, aren't u julie's bitch?"Problem is I like it. I think she is trying to demean me or humiliate me or something. But afterward, I satisfy myself, qwith much more traffic visuals than a magazine. I guess I am sayinbeing used is both exciting and embarrassing for me. Should I stop this? Or does it seem ok to continue? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Ultimately it all boils down to what you're comfortable with. Personally, I'd probably find a situation like you're describing exciting for a while, but it would get old pretty quick. I prefer mutual relationships.
One thing to try would be taking control yourself and seeing how she reacts. My guess is though that it wouldn't go over too well. She's using you. As long as you know that, and are ok with that, then go about your business. Just keep in mind that you are nothing more than a boy toy to her. You're also not likely much of a man in her eyes.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (13 August 2010):
Hmm, that's a tough one. Almost all of it sounds like if you're okay with it then there's nothing wrong with it. But she made you stop touching yourself while pleasuring her? I don't like the sound of that. If you want something to happen during the encounter, make it happen. If she doesn't like it, no head for her. On the other hand, you taking charge is exactly the opposite of what is going on here and could totally change the relationship, and maybe that would not excite you as much? Tough call. The girl's probably got some unusual sexual issues.
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reader, lam0111 +, writes (13 August 2010):
hum.... she's not trying to demean you or humiliate you SHE HAS! She's totally using you and she obviously likes having control over someone or she would NOT tell her friends. She's obviously saying derogatory things about you or her friends would not be snickering.
You could either take it for what it is... a girl just wanting to get off and you happen to do that for her. And if you like it, you like it. But do you mean you like giving someone pleasure but do NOT like feeling demeaned?? If she's not giving in return she's obviously just using you. But again, if you like that then you like it.
Be careful here though. Some girls will push it too far and accuse you of 'forcing' yourself on her if she happens to start to feel guilty or dirty about it. Especially if she starts a serious relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): I would say if she won't even acknowledge that she likes u and she won't even let u pleasure yourself, she's just using u. U don't deserve 2 b treated like that. She's being insensative if she doesn't consider your feelings. I believe that w/ pleasure, their comes love. It's an attribure of love. I think u just like a girl 2 b rough w/ u during sexual activity, that's all! She just wants her high and doesn't care about the remains. Like a smoker she wants her high and wants 2 keep smoking; even though it's wrong and just 4 the high. U don't have 2 give up yor dignity 2 attain temporary pleasure.
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