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writes:Okay, so, I am gay, and my 3rd cousin twice removed is as well (homosexual and male), and i'm not going to beat around the bush, i want to hook up with him and have even thought about dating him. 1. Is this bad?2. What do i do about it?
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 3rd cousins generally don't count as related even if your families stay in touch. Everyone on earth was descended from one ape so if you look at it that way, we're all cousins!=)
go for it, good luck
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I'm not entirely sure how incest laws work in the US but in the UK it's very unlikely that relationships between 3rd cousins would be regarded as unlawful unless you had grown up together as brothers or if he is much older/younger than you. Much of the problems would be down to the views of the families concerned and of any churches where they worship.What to do about it is a more difficult to answer. How old is he? Have there been any indications that he is interested in you? Just because he's gay too doesn't mean that he will automatically find you attractive or want to have sex with you.All you can do is call him up and suggest that you hang out together sometime and see if things develop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): That's not bad, he's not really a relation -go for it!
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reader, benny2692  +, writes (8 November 2009):
ok, as long as your cousin is about the same age i think it is ok. but u do need to look upon the family values and if they will accept your relationship. because i have had a experience with my cousin (whose male) and we both got caught. this was bad for us but we got over it and did some masturbation on each other but that was it. your relationship should be more of a pleasure activity rather than a love one. by all means have your fun, but watch out for other people is my point. because incest is still a taboo in our society.
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reader, keema611 +, writes (8 November 2009):
tell him how you feel in private...if he wants to date you, lucky you...i'm talking from experience i'm dating my cousin (ima a lesbian) and thinks are fine...try not to wait too long to come out to your family...when i did, it was hard and we had to go through some struggles, but i think you two will make it...its not bad at all..about 20% of marriages are cousin couples...and you guys aren't really that closely related so..its all good...
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