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writes:Hullo, Its my first time on this site but I really need some advice. I am kinda torn between two guys and I was hoping that everyone here could help me?Guy one is a close friend, my first crush and my only boyfriend and I have been his only girlfriend. We kinda buit up to our relationship over a year and then he asked me out. Unfortunatly as soon as I accepted I didn't LIKE him anymore and I broke it off saying that I wasn't ready which was true. Now, I like him again and I think he likes me but is afraid of getting hurt again.Guy two is a whole different kettle of fish, hes 18 (two years above me in school)and MUCH more sexually expirienced and also far more expirienced at the whole relationship thing than I am. We have only been talking/emailin/texting for a week or so, we have gotten pretty close I suppose and we have a fair amount in common. He has made it abundently clear that he likes me. The thing is whenever we talk (which is pretty much constantly) he stears the conversation to sexual subjects and makes sexual jokes. I told him that I am not ready for sex yet and he has assured me that if we do go out he will wait till I am 16 (which is leagal)and that he would take our relationship slowly. He says the cuteest things about my laugh and about my eyes and stuff but I am slighty wary. This brings us to my first question, is he just after me for sex?My second question, should I pursue Guy One, Guy Two or become a nun? XD Help me please!!!!
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reader, SlightlyLost +, writes (19 July 2010):
SlightlyLost is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to thank you all for the responses you gave :) q1605s made me laugh really hard!!
And the answres were all insightful. I'm going to play it by ear but trust me, your warnings will not go unheaded!
Thanks again x
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reader, Thegirlwiththepurplescarf +, writes (19 July 2010):
hehe maybe not a nun ! but maybe not any of them :)
the first guy, wee sweetheart, lovely guy, great friend but youve been out with him and maybe its time to move on you dont wanna be in the past. The second guy is seriously not worth it, he just wants to use you, ive seen so many of those guys and been used by a few. Just not worth it love :) hope it helps.
the girl with the purple scarf. xx
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Good response, q1605 - and I like the bit of humor at the end, LOL.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 July 2010):
At your age, being two years older than you is quite a big deal. He's still a teenager, but much more ready for sex.
If he tells you he'll take it slow if you go out, and that he won't pressure you sexually, but he's keeping on about sex whenever you text/talk you have plenty of good reason to be wary. I wouldn't trust him any further than I could throw him, as the saying goes.
As for the other guy, well, he most likely IS afraid of getting hurt again - and once more, with good reason. Sounds as if you don't know your own mind - which is natural.
It might be a good idea to say away from both of them, and focus attention on your schoolwork, friends, activities you enjoy.......dating can wait a few more years.......
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Absolutely DO NOT go for guy #2. Trust me he only sees you as a piece of ass. If everything is about looks that he compliments you on and everything is sexually related then he doesn't want anything more... Also you don't want to have sex as soon as you turn age of concent. Just because it isn't against the Law anymore doesn't mean you're really. Sex is not just sex it is a commitment and if you do it with someone you don't think you might love then you will only regret it. This guy is only going to pressure you and he is going for you are younger than he is and sees you as an easy target to get him to do what he wants. Trust me when I say drop him like a hot potato. He's no good.
Now guy #1 you liked him before you were officially together and then you just stopped liking him. Something went wrong after getting him because he no longer interested you and if that happened the first time history will only repeat itself. Stay friends with him or you might sacrifice your friendship if he get's hurt again. Just enjoy dating and seeing other people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): Heey, first I have to tell you that I always say the truth if its ugly or not I'm very obvious .. You're 14-15 so the guy will actually wait for a year or two to have sex with you? He can have sex with any girl he wants he's 18. And who said you will be stay his gf now till this time? I know what you're gonna say "we will stay forver because he's cute hot and I understand him etc." But NO . So I'm just saying that he WON'T wait which means or he really likes you or he's gonna have sex with you soon . As for chosing , a best friend? Hell yeah , number one.
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reader, 1989BABY +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Pursue Guy 1. He seems more your level and believe me the older guy is only pursuing you for sex, obviously.
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