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writes:Ok, so I met someone on holiday who I really like, but she lives 300 miles away. What do i do? First of all I would explain that this was an unplanned holiday given to me by a friend who was taking his girlfriend, now ex. It was intended to be a week of fun in the sun. Whilst there I met up with someone unexpectedly that I really like. They do say, you will meet someone when you least expect it.I have met this person twice since the holiday - planning future meetings, texted/emailed/calls etc, the whole thing is quite distressing as I like her a lot, the distance is such a problem for me.I'm at a stage in my life where I could move quite easily as I have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. It is something I feel would be good for me. Obviously, I could move closer to her. Should I? Or is this just crazy? And how would she take it if we have only been seeing each other for several months? How long is normal for this kind of thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everybody for your great responses. Similar to the thoughts going through my head right now, which is all very confusing :S
The more i think about moving in general, the more i like the idea, not necassirly because of my girlfriend, but to leave the nest so to speak. Almost every one of my friends has settled down, so im rarely able to spendtime with them. So im stuck in a bit of a rut.
Although the situation im in currently, i do believe if i announced that i was suddenly moving, that my partner may very well run a mile, i probably would.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Talk it over with her see how she feels about you and what she wants from the relationship, theres no point in moving all that way if nothig is going to happen, talk it over and see how it goes dont rush into anything without thinking and talking it through.
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (25 November 2007):
 I would try and work out how she feels about you first before making any drastic choices. If she's equally keen, then there's nothing stopping you from moving to her neck of the woods. Careful with holiday romances though. You don't always get the full picture and you may end up disappointed. As for timing, it really depends on the both of you and what your expectations are of each other.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 I would caution you in taking a hasty decision to move closer to her. It is a big decision for you and for her and I do not think the time is ripe in your relationship for this. You dont know each other you have not gone through the usual life situations together, neither have you been the routine of daily life.
I am a person quiete pessimistic about the sustainibility of 'vacatiopn affairs' but of course if this is the rule there are exceptions to the rule. As we all know holidays are the period where we we are detached from our real dailiy life and we are more romantic, optimistic in those days. Love and sex comes and goes easily in holidays.
Besides, probably she will not appreciate your moving closer to her this fast with this ease.
Take your time, try to spend more time with her and see whether you two really can make it work when you move closer. I am pessimistic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): Take a chance, c'est le vie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): When I met my boyfriend, he lived far away.
I would've given up anything at the time and moved across the earth to be with him.
I was contemplating it for a few months.
After a while the relationship ended. And eventhough Im broken hearted, as i loved him so much, and still do. I think it's definatly best that we're not living in the same place. Its easier to move on that way.
I know you may feel now that this is love and it will last for ever. Trust me. Nothing lasts forever.
x
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (25 November 2007):
 I think that if you want to move closer to be with her then you should. What you should also do is find out what she wants. Does she want a real relationship with you? Is she taking it seriously? If so then go for it. There is no timing for these sorts of things and as you say you have nothing to lose!
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