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writes:i m a really shy guy...during college i fell for a girl ..it took me 3 months n alot of pushing to go and tell her..she knew through common friends that i liked her.the time i talked to her she was really nice but said she's not interested other than beings friends is ok fr her....the next time every time i crossed her she ignored me.....i spoke to her she said she didnt like the attention n what people wud think of her if we wr seen together...i was kind of hurt coz i was unintentionally troubling her..so i told her i wont come to her again tht time she said she didnt say me to go away coz she didnt want to hurt me.i know its not my looks tht got her to reject me coz many girls had a crush on me during college n they my frnds wr suprised tht i got rejected by her.after that i never spoke to her n college has ended n i cant get her out of my mind. its 3 years since i spoke to her last. she is on facebook i didnt add her but i want to talk to her, give it another shot. and i m real confused now i really like her i dont even look at any other girl coz i m scared to fall in love again.....what shud i do??? shud i message her.....PS: I m in another country
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 What would you be hoping to achieve?
Sending a friend request might not hurt, but be careful about confessing you still have feelings for her 3 years later. That will definitely put her off. Saying hi and catching up isn't bad, but nothing will come of this either.
You need to move on. It would be better for you.
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reader, sneha09 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 yes just go 4 it...what r u waiting 4..take d chance....if she seemed to get bothered,just don't talk about feelings and all but there is no harm in being friends and try your best once again.Even if she doesn't get any feelings for you, there is no point of breaking friendship for this matter, if you two can handle it off course..and the other thing is that look at other girl.if you still think she is the best you can have, you should know you really love her and should try the best to have her.
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reader, anon-xo  +, writes (7 March 2011):
Okay, this seems to be really frustrating you, and I'm sorry if my answer isn't any help, but in my opinion if I was in your situation and she was constantly running through my mind too, I would more than likely have to message her and slowly take it from there, I understand it may be risky of either falling deeply again or even the chance of being hurt once more, but I don't think personally I could deal with it constantly running through my mind wondering to myself what and if, what if you never did message her, would you even be that bothered? Do you see where I'm coming from, and to be honest we only live once, if you think this girl is everything you've dreamt of and more than why not go for it?! There is nothing worse than wondering for the rest of your life. As you said it has been 3 years, and you never know in them 3 years you may have been in her mind too :)
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (7 March 2011):
You have to get over her, seriously. You can't avoid other girls because you are afraid of falling in love. The fact that she rejected you doesn't mean other girls will do the same. In the other hand, having been rejected by her in the past makes a good chance that she will reject you again.
You have to move on, specially since you are far away from her. Meet new girls and relax. That's how you will forget about her.
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