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anonymous
writes:I'm 16 and all my mates have lost their virginity to their long term boyfriends. I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over three years. I love and i know that he loves me back. We haven't gone any further than kissing. Should i lose my virginity to him and have sex with him?
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reader, tasha556 +, writes (4 June 2007):
 if u decide to have sex with him make sure you are ready, he is the one and that you use contraception, if one of these are missing dont do it. gd luck x
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reader, TRUST +, writes (6 May 2007):
well you have been goin out with him for a long time. if you love eachother then maybe you should. only if it feels right and natural tho. i had sex with a random guy at 16 n regret it so i think it would be a nice memory to have. dont be pressured tho. perhaps try other things rather than sex n just get a bit intamate. the key to sucess is total confidence.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
Trust me, I've been where you are. All my friends lost their virginity at an early age - right around your age. I wanted to do it too so that I'd be able to chat it up with them and share sex stories.
Believe me, sweetness. It is SO not worth it. You need to wait until you're good and ready. Your boyfriend sounds great, and it sounds like he's not wanting to rush things. I don't think you should rush things either. Sex will feel so much better when you both are ready. Sex is just between the two of you... don't base your decisions on your friends. I'm so glad I waited until I was 19, and I didn't plan anything it just happened.
Remember that your virginity is so special. It's not worth giving it up for anyone else but yourself and someone else who's special.
Take your sweet time. You've go tthe rest of your life to have sex.
xxIndia
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 The point here is... you are still a child!
Been together for 3years, at 16?
What are your parents thinking to allow this?
The fact that you are unsure & are asking this question, should be a big red flag to you...
No, you should not have sex just because your friends do... what a lame excuse...
If they jump from a bridge, would you jump too?
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 hello,
in my view, id say no. yes, i know you love him, and you see your peers losing your virginity at such a young age and you want to as well, but think ahead girl.
what if you break up 1 month later? i can assure you, alot of regret follows. regret for..well, losing your virginity.
you are still at such a young age(mine, heh.), theres plenty of opportunities and so much more to life.
dont get pressured into doing it, not even oral.
strict, you may say, but you have to be firm with yourself and others. respect your body!
to sum it all up, what im saying is that its not worth it to lose your virginity and have sex at your age. you are just too young. after 20+ its a different story altogether. there ya go, good luck with making the right decision.
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