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writes:I need advice!!Ok sooooo I'm 19 and I work part time. and I want to start school asap. Why? Because it took me an extra year to get my diploma. And I have no reason not to be in school. No kids, I have my diploma, a nice job ect. Sooo my boo want use (meaning my best friend too) sooo I really want to start I mean I didn't work harder to graduate from high school and left my diploma collect dust! So now I want start, and I have no way there what so ever. My dad ( :/ ) has 2 cars. And the one I want to use to get to school news a new radiator. And I'm willing to pay for it. BUT my useless dad won't let me touch the car because I don't have my license, how can I learn without a CAR?????? I don't understand him!! How can I learn to drive better without a CAR?? If u guys know PLZZZZ tell me. People who are in school is telling me to catch a bus there but that's 2 buses there and 2 back! That's not cool wit me. I just don't understand why should I have to catch a bus? My useless dad is saying I'm going to get to school! How? He don't care about anybody but him!! And my mom is NO help! She says she need help with bills, BUT she's letting him ( my dad ) stay a nite everyday!!! Free too!!! They haven't been together in 5 yrs sooo yea. He use to cheat and disrespect her a lot. But to me, she doesn't care. Everytime I bring up the car she says "I can't tell that man what to do with his car!!!" But she could atleast TRY!! That's all I'm asking. Then she rolls her eyes. I'm sooo upset. I want to hurt both of their feelings and just move away!! What kind of parents there they? I want to better myself, but how can I? My mom just want me to work so she can brag about where I work, which I hate. I mean I know she's lonely and I do want her to be happy, but I don't have a boyfriend neither but u don't see me going for whatever! What should I do? I don't know what to do? I really want to start school. I can't ride with my best friend because she is taking up something different from me and she want to go to school in the afternoon. I'm about to lose it on them. I'm so close to hurting both of their feelings and I think I would smile in their faces afterwards. Are they being good parents to you? Or what? I don't know. And I'm sorry if its too long.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (21 December 2010):
Woah woah, now what exactly is the problem here?
From what I'm reading your parents aren't stopping you from getting an education. You are.
- Your dad won't let you take the car because you don't have a license. Well, I'd agree with him on that because you don't learn to drive properly in just one go. You need to take lessons first and get your license and after that you're qualified to drive. Many car accidents are caused by young people who are careless, with tragic consequences like permanent disfigurement and death.
- What's wrong with taking a bus? I've been travelling by train and bus during my whole college time because I could not afford my own car (plus insurance, etc.)
Look, don't put this on your parents. If you want to go to school, arrange to go however you can. A car is a luxury for you right now, not a necessity. Why not go live on campus? That would solve the whole travelling problem.
Also, just a note: next time please write clearly and not in turbospeak because for someone like me (who is not a native English speaker) following this is very hard. It also makes you come across as immature which is probably not what you want.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 December 2010):
 If you want to go to school as bad as you say you do, you will find a way to do so, without expecting your parents to change and begin helping. It does seem as if they are stuck on themselves, and that you can't change. If it means taking two buses, do it because it gets you where you desire to be. If your desire is that great, you will overcome these obstacles. Do it for you, not to please anyone else, or prove anything to anyone else. I don't know your parents, or their reasons for being this way, but I know you want to go to school, so you need to find a way to make that happen.
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