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anonymous
writes:For over a year, me and this guy have tryed to have a relationship but it hasnt worked out. He lives in a different town then me and only comes out here with his best friend,which is my best friends boyfriend,and so on. We really like eachother and he is in my mind all the time but its hard.Finally i am trying so much harder,i invited him to my house for my birthday, He said yes and my parents know,but my parents were always overprotected with me and boys.i need my help from my parents and i need to let them in on my realtionship in order to see him,is that the best way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): yes, its best to let your parents know the truth, because they've experienced all this and you may be surprised by the advice that they give. Im 16, almost the same age as you, and i know how overprotective parents are. I think theyre right in being protective when it comes to guys because we girls are always teh one to get hurt at teh end of it all and im sure your parents dont want you to go through such trauma and tensions at such a young age. its good ur trying hard to maintain the relationship cos its not easy, but let him try too.
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (18 July 2009):
Yes, be honest with your family, and let them know that you would like their help. I remember when I was about your age, I had a girlfriend I met a high school dance who lived in the town next to me. My Mom or Dad had to drive me to her house for the afternoon etc., and sometimes her parents drove us to a restaurant so we could have dinner alone. It worked out fine; it was cute. Becuase the parents were involved, and her parents got to know me, it alleviated some of their anxiety/stress, so we were able to have fun together, and even some privavcy, e.g.watching TV in their basement. Approach it maturely, and I think your parents will respond, accordingly. If they're stressed about it, acknowledge their feelings, and say that it's important to you, and emphasize this guy's ggod qualities: e.g., he does well in school, good at sports, respectful, good friends with your friend, safe. etc. Good luck.
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (18 July 2009):
yes you should its so much easier!
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