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writes:okay so met this girl Online shes 16 gonna turn 17 in a couple of days and im already 17 ne who we have been talking for little over a year now and have become real close friends. And I have fallen in love with her... she lives in minnesota and i live in ohio so we are not to far apart any way we clicked from day one when we started talking we are into the same things had the same problems in life so we understood what each other were going through. Any way As i said i have fallen in love with her I know it sounds stupid because its online, but my question is should i tell her i love her? I dont wanna screw up the great friendship we have... Reply to this Question
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (18 July 2009):
I think you need to spend more time with a girl/woman, in person, than spending so much time online. However, feelings are feelings. I think it's very fair game to acknowledge to her that it might sound silly, but that you think that you have developed strong feelings, even though you've never met. Also, you're getting old enough to possibly arrange a meeting? Drive and meet half way in public place (as not to scare her, maybe with a friend of yours and have her bring a friend, so it's safer, and tell your parents) -- if that's even at all possibly?? -- Nothing to lose from my point of view to let her know that you value your relationship with her, a lot. See what she says. Clearly this has lasted a long time. She must feel the same way, to some degree. Have you spoken to this person on the phone? Make sure it's a girl!! LOL You never know who, or what, is on the other side of a computer name!! Careful!! Just some sage advice....
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reader, soanyways +, writes (18 July 2009):
man that was almost the exact situation i had a while ago
here's my story; ok well i finally told this girl how i felt about her and we've known each other online for years now and i really liked her and wanted to tell her how i felt towards her just to like get it off your chest ya know? well so that's what i did, i braved up and told her how i felt no matter what i thought she may say. she wasn't really surprised goes to show if you show small hints she may know already or slightly but even so she was puzzled if she felt the same way. it wasn't awkward at the end though because i knew how she felt towards the situation and she knew how i felt, it's just those random flirting that may happen that have been awkward for us.
so you know what i say man? i say if you really love her and that if you know that she may like you back, go for it. think about it too though and ask yourself if she is the kinda person who would just become awkward at the situation or even depart the friendship after you tell her, if not then it's all good. just make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend or anything ya know, then it's kinda off limits xP. even so follow your intuition and make her laugh on the way to saying what you gotta say if you decide to say it. don't be nervous and just look for signs from her and from what you think.
good luck man and i hope i helped! =]
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