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writes:i recently posted a question which really relates to this one but time has passed and im still in the same situation, i recently told you that this girl i like talks to me when i see her on nights out. her friends come up to me and yell me she likes me.(To get a better gist of my situation read my previous question i posted).And last Thursday night i saw her with her friends, i was sat outside a club with a friend of mine and she walked past and shouted me over when she was with her friends and shouting things like "come over her my friend really likes you" i went over as you do and all i could here was her mates asking this girl i like if "this is him?", then whenever i see her and her mates out in town, her friends point at me and get her attention to let her know im here and this really does mess with your head when your crazy about this girl, but the thing that throws me off is she will blatantly blank me if we walk past in a bar sometimes then the next minute she will stroke my hair if shes walking behind me then look away when i turn round.We talk on the computer and text occasionally but that about it. her friend was telling my mate that i should make the 1st move because she is shy supposedly but i have a feeling im trying to make something of this situation in my head and she dosent really like me at all.I really only see her at weekends and i really want to tell her before then.how do i tell her? Does she really like me?
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reader, PM  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 lilgirly's got the right idea, you need to go for it, but you have to do it carefully.
This girl's reputation with her friends is at stake here. You say that this has been going on for a while now which means now you have been hyped up. Her friends probably tease her about it all the time and talk about how great you must be if she likes you, so if you go for it and do not win over her friends then the situation could turn very bad. You seem to be a cool guy, so you have to figure out a way to control the situation and her friends most of all. They're the obstacles here. If the girl already likes you then you're already home free, but it's the friends who are likely to cause you problems. You MUST win them over with your personality so that they feel their friend has made a good choice.
Oh, one other thing. You must also make it seem like you chose to be with her and you chose to make the first move and didn't get pushed into it by your friends. Indecisiveness is generally not an attractive quality in a guy. I'd suggest picking some event that's coming up and using that as your alibi. "I would've asked you out sooner, but I was waiting for this band to visit our city." If you don't, she probably won't appreciate the fact that the only reason that you guys got together was that her and your friends were forceful enough to push you into talking to her.
In short, GO FOR IT and let us know how it goes!
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 hey,
i think she likes you so why don't you go for it? what do you have to lose? if you stay like this and don't take the first step nothing will ever happens...
and if she doesn't like you well at least you tried, if you don;t try you will never know every man gets let down many times in his life it is so commun:D.
DO IT good luck and tell us what happens byeXXX
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