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writes:I have a bad situation, my date which i was taking to prom just as friends really likes me now when i still feel the same about her. We hung out yesterday and she was hitting on me really hard. She just does a lot of things i don't approve of and im not all that attracted to her, other then that she is cool, so i just want to stay friends. Come to find out today tho tomorrow night at prom she plans to give me a blow job afterward, I don't know what to do because part of me that's riddled with hormones wants to just let it happen while the other side is uneasy and not liking the idea of it. Should i just accept it and let it happen or tell her no when the time comes, it would be my first time doing anything sexual, that's where a lot of this frustration comes from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Just explain to her it would be your fist time doing something like that. And you woyld rather she wouldnt.I know both sides are tellin you to do something diffrent but you should listen to the side that you like best.But good luck to you anyway x
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Glad to see things are going well. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt didn't happen, not because she didn't want to but because her state of mind around me changed and she got cold feat before she did, WOW it really surprised me she never gets flustered by anything as long as ive known her. Funny thing is i started to like her during yesterday and today, we had a lot more in common then i knew. Got my first french kiss lol, did good to. She couldn't even tell that it was my first time and was impressed. Good times, this whole thing has made me more comfortable about things to come. Thanks guys i wouldn't of had all this happen if it wasn't for you guys telling me to just accept it.
If things keep going like this well be dating in a short while, I never expected this so soon i had sort of given up hope and it was under my nose the whole time LOL.
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reader, mrs.smith81608 +, writes (9 May 2009):
Use a condom-get a hummer-end of story. Clarify that no boundaries will be crossed as far as emotional feelings. You only have prom night once, ENJOY IT! There are no re-do's. Enjoy yourself!!!!!! ;) And yes this is coming from a female!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): i would say go for it mate. Just make sure u use a condom because u can still get STI's with oral sex. U'd probably regret it later if u let this one go. Have Fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Hi,
I would say go for it myself! I spent my teens and early 20s holding back from going for it in situations like this because I was waiting for the perfect woman.
The truth is that at any given time there is no reason why you will be in contact with that perfect person. At some point you might meet them. But in the times when that is not the case you can have some wonderful times with people who it is not 'perfect' with.
But beyond that there is something just great about having sex even with someone who you do not feel is the centre of your life. It is really good for you in so many ways.
So have some fun, get some of your excited energy out there and enjoy it. At some point I hope you find an amazing person to be with. But you should get some experience and enjoy yourself for now.
Cheers.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (8 May 2009):
She might feel that if she does this for you it will bring the two of you closer. I'd go to the prom and if things stray let her know you like her as a really cool friend and dont want to risk your friendship. Also whatever you do, do not get caught up in the moment.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): if theres doubt in ur mind, say no. (:
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reader, mytwocents +, writes (8 May 2009):
 I would TOTALLY go for it.
I don't think a bj has to ruin your friendship, and it will more-than-likely be a fun, exciting experience for you. Just tell her right before that you don't want this to ruin your friendship. Then sit back and enjoy, and maybe offer some oral reciprocation (if you know what I mean).
You'll probably feel a lot less frustrated and would probably kick yourself later if you were to pass this up. I know I did when I repeatedly passed up stuff like this at your age. Remember what Mark Twain said, you regret the things you DON'T do a lot more than the things you do.
Please tell us what you end up doing--either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Make the first time with someone who you actually want and like and feel comfortable with in that way. It's nice to see a young man who isn't going to jump at this chance reguardless of anything becuase of his hormones. I think that will only complcate things between you two and you will end up regretting it when you are with a girl who really matters to you and wants to do that for you.
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