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writes:I am forty years old and have been in a relationship with my partner for five years. We have a three year old daughter together. For the last two years we have only had sex twice, and now our daughter remains sleeping in our bed, while I choose to sleep on the lounge, this has been going on for six months. My partner is fine with the sleeping arangements. We have a sexless relationship, we dont go out as a couple antmore, we dont kiss. Im feeling really rejected and I feel ugly,as there is no affection. My partners parents hate me enough to call me a low life. I feel I am missing out on life and romance.The passion has gone as we dont spend one on one time together, it has got to the point were I dont think I love him anymore. Should I leave relationship, or stay unhappy? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2009):
Good for you! Go out and find yourself. xx
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reader, bobbysims +, writes (23 September 2009):
bobbysims is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the advice, my partner came home from work and we had a big arguement, I let it all out. It had been building up for a long time. He is now moving out, and Im not sad, I feel alot of weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Maybe, he needs to go away for a while and realise what I use to do for him, as I feel he has taken me for granted for a very long time. I want to feel special and loved, thats not much to ask for, in the mean time, i'm going to get to know myself and friends again. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): What was the contributing factor to you moving out of the bedroom?? Did you ever discuss this with your husband??
Is he happy?? Surely at some point you both must have discussed your sleeping on the couch??
A good counsellor will be able to help you cope here. To me it sounds like the marriage is over and it is only the formalities to be dealt with.
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reader, Jayney Y +, writes (23 September 2009):
 I'd have been packing my bags about a year ago. Sitting around waiting for a situation to change rarely works, and when there's no affection or intimacy 'it's over', especially when it reaches a point where you feel ugly and your self-esteem and your identity are at stake. If you decide to leave you'll all be better off for it once you get past the trauma of separation, including your daughter. You can't be the best mum you can be when you're feeling like crap. Good luck :)
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reader, Basschick +, writes (23 September 2009):
 Find a good counselor and talk to her. Discuss how you feel about your relationship and think about ways of improving the situation. Once you've exhausted all other possibilities, you will feel better about moving on without him. You may also discover ways to improve the relationship for the both of you, and your daughter. I wish you the best.
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