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*ingingchicky
writes:So there is a guy at work (typical start I know) who is really cute and I'm interested in. He comes in every Tuesday for music and I will admit I've spoken maybe 4 or 5 words at the most to him-mostly because I don't really get an opportunity to talk to him. I've been debating just slipping him my number and seeing what happens, but I am literally scared silly to do so. Besides, I am afraid my co-workers (or worse my boss) would see this. Should I just swallow my fear and do it? Or are my concerns plausible reasons not to do it.
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reader, singingchicky +, writes (18 September 2011):
singingchicky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE: the guy turned out to be a jerk. Not because he didn't text me (which he did) but just wasn't who I thought he was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Well great! I hope you can keep us upto date.
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Well I hope everything works out awesomely. I deff want to know if he calls!
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reader, singingchicky +, writes (6 April 2011):
singingchicky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst things first: I did it today. In an attempt to be subtle, I put it under the guitar pick he left in our room and gave it to him as such. I'm going to try to answer these in order of bottom to top:I haven't really flirted with him Yetilicious, at least not to my knowledge. I talked to him a little more today though. Luv2giveadvice: It's an interesting situation. He's a colleague of sorts in the sense that he works with the kids at the daycare I work for, but only on Tuesdays. Anonymous, I will admit that your comment gave me the courage I needed to do it (as well as everyone else! This one was just the first I read)trancedrhythmear, I really hope I don't come off as creepy to this guy! But hopefully it will all work out in the end. Second anonymous, your comment was also a big deciding factor lol. Third Anonymous, though I saw your comment after I had done it, you are right. it would have driven me insane lol. I'm glad I did it in the end. Now I just have to wait and see what happens (though I'm not going to stalk my phone lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): "if you dont, you will just drive yourself insanewith curiosity."What Luv2giveadvice says is very true!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): No I disagree, it's not creepy at all, not if a girl does it. Slipping a note IS breaking the ice. I would find that a really nice way for a girl to approach me. And anyway, if the guy isn't interested, he won't call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Find a way to initiate a small convo first to break ice and then ask him out. Five minutes is all you need. If you havent spoken to him much, chances are if you slip him your number youre coming across as maybe creepy lol. Also, dont give him all the power to call you... GET his number so you can call him! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Once upon a time, many years ago, a girl did slip me a note. She worked at a photo shop which I regularly visited to have my photos developed. Once when I came to collect my photos, she let me see that she slipped a note together with the receipt. Spontaneously and automatically I was very discrete about it. Neither her co-workers or anybody else in the shop saw this. I paid as normal, went to my car and looked at this note, just her name and number. I was just SOOO pleased, you have no idea how happy I was!! It was just such a lovely way to come into contact. Anyhow that little note was the beginning a very “intense” relationship!
My advice is do it! Overcome your fear because I very much doubt that anyone will notice your secrete messaging.
Good luck!
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reader, Luv2giveadvice  +, writes (5 April 2011):
Hi,
He seems like a customer, or is he a colleague?
Do it, but try to make sure no one sees you,
maybe put it in a CD case as you load it,
im guessing this is what he is buying,
if you dont, you will just drive yourself insane
with curiosity.
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
Have you ever flirted with this guy? Or have you ever caught him looking at you? If there's no ring on his finger and you never see him with another girl, I say go for it, slip him the number! A girl did the same thing to my brother the other day at the grocery store, she was like, "here this is for you"...it was a coupon with her number on the back. Just swallow your fear and get it over with, what's the worst that could happen? He doesn't call you? You'd get over it. Good luck, let us know what happens!
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