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anonymous
writes:Hi guys,So there is this guy that I like but he doesn't seem to put too much effort in...anyways, first he started texting me and we alternately texted back and forth, but it started becoming a bit sparse. so he texted me last about a week ago and i guess its now my turn to text him, but i didn't want to, because i wanted to see if he would text me again, but he hasn't...Should I just give in and text him, or not bother, because if he really liked me he would have sent me something?Thanks in advance
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Since it's your turn, text him, but if after that the communication dwindles and fizzles again, - don't sweat it and look for someone more eager.
Btw ( it has not particularly got to do with this post,OP ) : from what I read on Dear Cupid it seems there is a whole new generation of males who act like Scarlett O'Hara at the plantation ball . They sit back looking pretty and fanning themselves , while the women are supposed to call them, text them, court them, pursue entice cajole them into showing some enthusiasm and follow-trough.
Now, I am aware, also from what the male Cupiders say, that there is nothing wrong ,in fact it's positive, when a woman takes the initiative, knows what she wants and goes for it, encourages a shy guy etc. - all in all, she does her part to keep the ball rolling. Ok , I buy that.
But...up to a point. I don't know... it makes ME exhausted
just from reading all the effort these girls have to do to squeeze some consistent response from guys, so I say - let's relax the proactivity a bit . Convey your interest - then let THEM come forward.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 December 2010):
I see any point, to be honest. Neither of you seem that interested. He has become sparse, and you played a game to see whether he'd text more. It just seems like neither if you are interested enough to make this go anywhere. So I say just don't worry about it anymore. And in the future, when a guy does text you, please don't play games like not texting back to see if he'll text again. That's the sort of thing that men don't appreciate.
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