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*shley37
writes:Hi,Theres this girl I really like in the year below me. We get on really well, and are becoming good friends. We email each other practically every night and she knows how much I like her.Shes a year younger and has never had a boyfriend before, but is extremely mature. Shes the only girl I know who 100% genuine, kind, and caring. All in all, I think that if we got together, it would turn into something serious.I've known her a fair few months, and I see her most days. I got the feeling that we both liked each other, just by little things she'd say in emails. She also came to watch me play Rugby for my team one time on her own, which I thought was sweet.Just recently, I found out her best friend fancied me. The friend is sweet, but I cant help the fact its not her I'm into. Since then, I've tried to get across to her the fact I like her hell of a lot, and wish she felt the same way.By reading her MySpace Blogs and Bulletins I know there is someone she *likes*. Now shes told me that I'm a great friend and she loves me, but there is no longer anyone that she likes and that shes really sorry. She wont tell me the name of who "he" was either!I'm really heartbroken as I KNOW shes exactly my type personality wise. I wouldn't be exagerrating if I said 1 in a million either!I spoke to one of her male friends, who said she was speaking to him recently asking "Should you have something you really really want, even if that means upsetting someone you really care about and you know its going to hurt them?".I don't know what shes on about, and if it wasn't related to me, I know she'd of felt comfortable telling me what was up.Either:1) Shes referring to upsetting her best friend if she went out with me.2) Shes referring to upsetting me, if she went out with this other lad...(who I don't know exists!)I'm in a right muddle and don't know what to do next.I've told her that I'm not interested in her friend and that I like her, but now shes saying she doesn't feel the same way but I'm a great friend.Where do I stand?Do I drop it and accept she doesn't like me that way?Or keep going after her in the hope its something else!?Thanks a LOT for any advice :(!Cheers,Ashley.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Wow man this is like a mirror image of what im going through the most wonderful girl i have ever met and i told her how i felt. I know how you feel and it sucks. My advice let it be right now give her space but still remain her friend. You have made your move it's her turn. Do not keep driving at it cuz you don't want her to think you are desperate. If she feels the same about you then she will eventually tell you but be careful you certainley don't want to lose her as a friend.
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reader, xZomgbiex  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 I think you should keep going after her only because she might just not be speaking up about her feelings. The thing about us girls is we normally don't realize that our best guy friends are the best guys for us until they give up on us. so just don't give up on her. My boyfriend was my best friend and he didnt give up on me and now we have been happy together for a year and a half =]
well god bless and good luck
~Bekah
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reader, ladycharm +, writes (11 March 2008):
 i think that maybe she's not ready for anything kind of relationship no matter how mature you think she is she is most likely afraid that she may not be good enough or she doesent want to risk the friendship you have just give her time if she s worth it good uck
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reader, Cosy +, writes (11 March 2008):
If you said you were into her and she didn't say the same I guess your only option is to back out..quite possibly, by backing out she will be forced into telling you how she really feels, maybe say something like.. 'i like ou so much that i need to get some space right now, spend less time with you so I can get you out of my head..?
Whatever happens you don't want her to like you just because you liked her first, you want it to be genuine Maybe let thins settle a bit because they sound pretty heated and just take some space anyway t think about it all... good luck xx
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