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writes: My ex husband and I have been separated for 3 and half years, due to his constant online cheating. After the split, things got ugly and he turned into a very ugly person, calling me names and threats, our kids dont talk to him. I saw him this week, I didnt even recognize him, when walking towards him in a store isle, I noticed this man standing there with a smile and when I realized who it was, I put my head down and turned the opposite way. All the hurt just started to surface, I didnt even recognize him...a man who I was with for 24 years!! Did I do the right thing, by ignoring him!!?? I noticed he walked away and soon left the store. I really felt bad, but he hurt me so much and threatened me that he had blocked me from his cell phone his current girlfriend is the devil and has really been playing games with me and my kids...were done ...should I have talked to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you!! I felt really bad just ignoring him while he stood thinking I was going to talk to him! but now I am sure I did the right thing. I have found out so much what he did to me behind my back.. that I just don't have it in me to even talk to him anymore. And your right I can't handle anymore hurt. I really loved the man, really thought I was blessed. But, it was a lie.
I have two beautiful kids who are my world. I feel blessed, thank you aunties and uncles...lol
you guys are terrific, xoxo
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (18 February 2014):
Well done! You showed self respect. He hurt you and you did not allow for another opportunity for him to do so. Even a nasty comment from him would've stung but you did the wisest thing in such a situation...walk away.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 February 2014):
 Well done lady! YOU did the right thing.
Don't second guess yourself! HE made the choice to alienate YOU and YOUR shared kids, why should you now be nice to him? You weren't rude, you just decided not to waste time on being polite.
You could have flipped him off or made a scene, instead you turned around and walked away.
It's OK!
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (16 February 2014):
 Good for you walking away and no you should not have talked to him.
He treated you badly, threatened you, blocked you and even your kids won't talk to him!
It would have been two faced to pretend that you were pleased to see him. He's made his bed, let him lie in it!
Hold your head up high my love and be proud you acted in such a self controlled, mature way.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2014):
No. You did the right thing. What he did to you was terrible, and the fact that his children don't even talk to him says it all. If he had made the effort to come to you, that would have been one thing. But, he didn't do that,and he hasn't done.
If he attempts to make some kind of reasonable contact, that's one thing. But, given that he was obviously not treating you well, you don't need to go to him first. It's just sad that he couldn't have treated you better at the time so this wouldn't have happened.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (16 February 2014):
 That's a difficult question to answer. You did what you felt you had to do for yourself. I see nothing wrong with that. Take care of yourself and the kids first. His actions have shown what he thinks of you. Don't feel guilty
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reader, Alba5 +, writes (16 February 2014):
I think you did the best thing. Remember he has treated you in the past terribly, you are the mother of his children. By ignoring him you have sent him a clear message that you will not tolerate his behaviour. In years to come you may salvage some sort of contact but I think he needs to prove to you before that he is worth your time.
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