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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi iv been out with my girlfriend for 3 years now and she is a little bit older tgan me and she wants to have sex but im not fully comfident with my body i have muscle but iv got a bit of fat on my belly only a little and it knocks my confidence with her and to be honest she hasnt seen my upper body fully in light. Also i could use some tips if you were in mypostion would you have sex with her or not because i don't want the risk of making her pregnant and iv got my grades to improve and i fear she might dump me if i turn her down (seems funny a lad asking for help with this but i don't hav enough confidence to do this but i could use some help plz) Thank YouFromA confused teen lad
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
If you're not ready, then you're not ready and you shouldn't do it. Don't feel pressurized. As for getting her pregnant, use condoms and makes sure she's on the pill, that way you're both well protected. Finally, you don't need to worry about your body. She's going out with you, so she already likes you.
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reader, pauly12345 +, writes (4 October 2009):
Hey buddy
You're not the first to ask this sort of question (and won't be the last). Ok, I think you should lay down some ground rules here.
No one should force you to have sex, or even put pressure on till you are ready.
If you feel embarrassed about something sometimes it's best to be honest and tell the person you are with. Your relationship should be based on love, not based on sex and if she can't handle it then there's not much of a relationship anyway!
Remember it's better to wait and get it right than rush into it and get it wrong.
I hope you work things out! :-)
Paul.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Hun, if your not ready, then your not ready. She will wait for you if you dont want to make this step, just tell her that!
As for your tummy, dont worry! I feel exactly the same, and believe me she wont even notice. My boyfriend has a little bit of fat on his tummy, but I dont care, I think its better than him being a stick!
Yes sex can lead to pregnancy, but its unlikely if you use both condoms and the pill. Good to hear your focusing on your grades.
Anyway if youve been together 3 years, it must be for a reason! Im sure she will be fine with whatever you choose.
Enjoy!
xxx
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