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writes:Could you try and help plz me and this boy are on about having sex i dont know wether i should go on with it or not hes a lovley boy and i do like him its just i think im a bit scared as we will be doing it outside (probably in a bush) it will also be our first time what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): don't do it,
i'm fifteen and i still remember the first time i went further than kissing ( i.e hand jobs and oral sex ) and it was in a public toilet,
it does matter where it is
and i think until you're in that situation, naked and cold and uncomfortable you don't realize how bad it's going to feel and how many times you are going to look back on what happened and wish you were in a warm bed with someone you trusted and felt comfortable with
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): if you was ready you wouldnt be posting on here
also id advise against the bush idea
loosing your viginity can be embarasing enough without getting caught in the act
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Hey, if you have any doubts then you should definetely wait. Wait till your atleast 16 and even then theres no rush. Just please make sure your totally ready and with someone you truely love. As trust me you will regret it. x
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 In a bush?
hahaha, that cracked me up.
DONT DO IT!
Your virginity is very special, and you shouldn't go about losing it, until you are ready, and of legal age.
It should be romantic and special, no bushes involved!
Good luck!
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 When in doubt : DON'T do it.
The second you question whether you want to or not shows that you are not prepared for this kind of step and it would best if you waited.
As for sex in a bush? Oh no! Losing your virginity should be special, you'll feel like cheap trash afterward if you do it in a bush.
If this boy really cares about you, he'll respect your wishes to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Really? Your virginity is the most precious gift you can give to a person. Once you give it, it's gone - forever. Losing her virginity changes a girl's life forever, it's one of the biggest event that will happen in her lifetime. And you want to give your virginity away in a bush like it's nothing? To a boy you will soon break up with? And I guarantee you, you and he WILL break up soon after you have sex with him. I feel sorry for you if you're actually considering doing this. If you would do it, then you clearly don't value yourself or the great gift that is your virginity very much. And that is very, very sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): I thought my first time was bad but seriously FIRST TIME IN A BUSH? You've got to be kidding me!
god girl dont waste it in a bush!
you will be sitting drinking a glass of wine in say ten years time with your friends reflecting on each others first times- do you really want to say, i have no self respect and i was 13 and did it in a bush?!?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): If your not sure then you probably shouldn't do it......i can almost gaurantee you, you will regret it
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 first time in a bush? and they say romance is dead....dont do it. the fact that you have to have sex in a bush screams immaturity to me.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Well that will make a lovely story to tell your grandkids won't it.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Sex outside in a bush will be a horrendous experience, I can tell you that now. The experience will likely put you off sex for some time if you go through with it...as well as feeling used, and the possiblilty of unwanted pregnancy, diseases, infections etc.
I can't put it any clearer...DON'T DO IT! Sex should be an intimate and passionate experience -- having sex outside in a bush is niether of those things.
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reader, buster +, writes (16 July 2008):
Hi.........id wait a while!
If your feeling scared and a little unsure...just chill out and give it time. If the boy likes you he will understand and if not then its not really you that he wants.
Your still very young and should only do something that you are sure you want to do. When you are sure make it special..........you can do better than a bush!!
Plenty of girls your age are in the same situation but have belief in what YOU want, dont allow others to pressure you and above all stay safe!
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reader, rebecca.megan +, writes (16 July 2008):
 don't do it!
simple answer.
your' deffinatley not ready &your first time is supposed to be special and with someone who loves&cares about you[visa verse]
please don't take this oppurtunity to take away something as valuable as this to somebody i can tell your' obviously not in love with[or even goout with].
it's you body and you have the right to step away from this, whether he likes it or not. Wait until the time is right, and you'l feel much happier about it, instead of looking back in regret like most teenagers will do. x
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