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reader, Denise32  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Forever58: How did it go on Sunday? Did you see your friend at church and let him know you'd like to have lunch with him sometime???
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (3 November 2010):
Okay. Let us know how it goes next Monday! Good luck
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reader, forever58 +, writes (2 November 2010):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for helping me out .i will try this an see what happen .you have help me alot an thanks for theken the time to help me .thank you
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (2 November 2010):
I still say when you see him next Sunday, why don't you just tell him you'd like to get together for lunch one day and see what he says? If he IS in fact dating someone he may well tell you so then.......but perhaps he's not.
Anyway, is there anything to prevent you sitting with him and his ex-mother-in-law during the service? You could always ask if they mind if you join them. You might offer to get her a cup of coffee at coffee hour afterwards. That would be a nice gesture.
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reader, forever58 +, writes (2 November 2010):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry that you feel that way i was just trying to figured out what happen yesterday as in sunday .he just seem so distance to me not like he is on other sunday thank you for your advice an if i ever get to talk to him maybe i will find out what happen . i have tryied to talk to him but someone always comes up .no the distance is not to far what i meant i do not know if he is dateing someone or not .an i do not know how long it has been since he has dated .thanks again for your advice
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Now, It sounds like to me you're trying to find EVERY TYPE of excuse to not follow my advice so far I've counted 6 or more!..You want hear some? Here they go..1st you said, Maybe it his Mother-in -law? You even had me on that guilt trip with you for a minute but, I pulled out of it real quit! After I thought about it.The Ex-Mother-In-law, Can't do for him what you can! Now We're on number 2nd, might be playing games? He live in another town..." 3rd...You live too far.." You keep coming up with more and more EXCUSES! as to why you shouldn't go forward with my advice! Apparently!!! Deep in your heart you know he's available or you wouldn't keep coming back. I can tell a million different ways to go for it!!! But...I can't give you the COURAGE! That you have you muster up for yourself!
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reader, forever58 +, writes (1 November 2010):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionforgot ,
i do not know if he is dateing .he lives in one town an i live in another which takes about an hour to get here . but i do thank you for your help an it has help me alot .just want to make the right decision .an your so kind for thaken the time to answer my question have never been good at figureing out men . thank you again
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reader, forever58 +, writes (1 November 2010):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for the advice . i am willing to try as you said but do you think he is really intrested in me or playing games ? i think maybe since is ex motherin law is with him he does not or will not make a move to ask me out . that why i was asking should i move on thank again
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (1 November 2010):
Jmtmj, Is right on the money with his advice! I bet this guy has been out of the dating game a long time. However, contrary what you most people seem to believe! Old dogs can be taught new tricks! IJS!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 You may think you've done enough to show him you're interested simply by going up to him, but he may need more than that to convince him that you're keen... Don't forget- this guy has clearly been out of the dating game for a LONG time! Skills in attraction and dating aren't like riding a bicycle, but like a bike- they can get rusty. I agree that being a mature man he's probably more likely to actually want to do the asking.
Good-luck :)
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reader, forever58 +, writes (31 October 2010):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for helping me with my confuse problem .but i feel like i have let him know that i am intrested in him by going up to him last sunday . i try to talk to him but we have so little time to say anything to one another . .but i feel that he is from the old school an maybe he should do the asking . still confuse an willing to try most thing out .
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (31 October 2010):
I don’t wanna forget the present is a gift..
And I don’t wanna take for granted the time you may have here with me.. because Lord only knows another day is not really guaranteed #ALICIAKEYES, I know how how it is to lose somebody you love deeply, as, you mentioned he lost his wife. He's still in mourning, I would guess, but that's not to say if I was you I wouldn't "pull his head down next to mine" or,put "My hands on his shoulders and squeezed them a little then said how you doing? NEXT!!Sunday. You get what I saying don't you? Make your move! Tomorrow is not granted!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (31 October 2010):
I think in this case you might want to be bold and invite him to have lunch with you sometime. You could suggest a particular day - i.e., how about next Wednesday or Friday - and see how he responds. If he is interested this will give him an opening........or you could just tell him you'd enjoy meeting for lunch one day and ask if he'd like that too.
Let us know what happens!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (31 October 2010):
Well if you're going to wait around for him to make a move, at least give him a more concrete sign that you're interested. A green light for him that its ok to get closer to you basically...
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