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*aamm
writes:so one of my friends Birthday is today and his girlfriend and I planed out a surprise Birthday party at a restaurant, the problem is that he made friends with my ex and she invited him. Honestly I cant stand my ex because he talked a lot of ugly thing about me making most of my friend be really distant or just simply hate me. So my friends girlfriend she only knew that he is my ex but didn't know the whole story until now. I'm engaged and my finance cant stand my ex either so what should i do ??? should i still go??? thank you all
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reader, Saamm +, writes (16 March 2011):
Saamm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys I did go and it was so much fun !
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I'do go. After all, you have been invited by the birthday boy's girlfriend, and if she and he like you, you don't need to get the seal of approval by each and any of the other guests. Have fun, act polite, ( not necessarily warm, which would probably be a stretch), and show everybody that you are way above all those cheap gossips and backstabs.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Yes i think you and your fiance should still go. Be civil with your ex though. He'll more than likely be on his best behaviour and don't make any attempt to drag the past up.
You've put all that work in to planning this surprise for your friend, why should you have to miss out. Maybe if your ex knows that you're going to be there, he may not even come! But if he does, just be civil with him and try to enjoy your night, for your friends sake...
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I am just one man but my experience tells me you should absolutely go. Hold your head up high and please don't 'stoop to his level' if anything untrue or distasteful is said. 'Take the high road', 'be the better person', 'rise above' . . . I think you catch my drift. Just go and have a lot of fun with your fiance by your side supporting you and showing people you are in a solid, healthy, respectful, loving relationship. I truly wish you all the best!
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