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*rokenwing10
writes:Hey guys, thanks for taking your time to read my problem :)I've been with this guy for a month and at first everything seemed to clicked. We had that instant attraction to each other. He used to txt me and ask how's it going almost every day and all of a sudden, he stopped txting and communicating in general. We aren't officially dating yet and he's not committed for a relationship at the moment which I can fully understand. Right now I'm giving him some space etc Last time I saw him, we went to the beach to hang out. He got slightly physical with me and this was his second attempt to kiss me but I withdraw him. The reason why I did this is because he wasn't committed for a relationship and I wasn't ready. After I got him, he txted me saying how sorry he went too fast with me and I replied saying I was okay with it. Ever since then, he's been avoiding my msn message i left online and replying less with short sentences. One time I was suppose to text to my friend but I accidentally sent to him instead. He replied straightforwardly telling me I sent to the wrong person. when I tried to reply him by asking "so where have you been last night? I gave you online message but you never replied"...no answer from him. I should've been more patient but I begin to fear he was avoiding difficult situations. And after a while, there was still no reply to that question so I thought..okay he might be busy? I started to panic so I gave him another txt saying " Listen I know you're wanting to have some space between us but am I the only who thinks you're drifting apart?" and still no reply so I called him and he answered by saying " I fell asleep." I didn't believe him because how can some one reply to you straight away about sending the wrong message to a wrong person and when I ask "where did you go last night?" there was no reply? All of a sudden he stopped txting, replying or even bother talking to me for a week. He lives pretty close to my house so I was thinking of visiting him and ask if he's still keen on getting to know me. Now when I say confront, I don't mean storming to his doorstep and yell " why haven't you txted back?!" etc but tell him to hang out to the beach and have a talk. Should I go to his house and ask since he lives close to mine? I doubt he'll reply after me asking " shall we catch up?" He'd probably come up with an excuse to avoid it.
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reader, Brokenwing10 +, writes (14 March 2010):
Brokenwing10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR ADVICE!! I'm moving on day by day!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 March 2010):
He's just not into you. When you pulled away and offered no explanation to him (I'm assuming you didn't tell him you weren't ready), he figured you weren't interested. He has already moved on, and now you need to do the same.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Even if you confront him , nothing will change for you .He belongs to the past. He has become history.
As far as he is concerned, you do not exist in his world.Forget him and move on.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Simple answer to this is NO! Sorry for using the corny old saying but "he just isnt that into you". If he was interested he would text back - simple as that.
It seems to me that when he was trying to get a bit physical with you - that was what he was after, just sex. So when you turned him down, he realised he was not going to get any from you hence why he has stopped responding to you.
Men can be very cruel and cowardly, they really should have the decency to be honest from the start but unfortunately that is not the case with this guy. If he is making excuses to avoid you then he really is not interested in you, I know it will be hard to accept when it was so good at the start, but you need to realise this relationship is not going anywhere so cut your losses and move on!
This has happened to me before, where everything was going great with the guy I was dating for a month, then we went out one night, had a good time but within the next 2 weeks after that the texts slowed down, to the point where he just never replied to my texts ever again. Not heard from him since, and it has been nearly 6/7 months! Lesson I learnt - there are some guys that are massive jerks, and while you can carry on texting them asking for them to at least be honest and give you an explanation, they dont have the decency to even do that therefore there is no need for me to waste another second of time on him.
So dont go to his house, dont text him or call him ever again. If he wants you he knows where you are, but dont hold out any hope on that one. Guys like to do the chasing, so if you start chasing after him it will only put him off more. Turning up at his house is a bit freaky and he will think you are stalking him/watching him, so best to leave it be. He is not interested, but be thankful you only wasted a short amount of time on him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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