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writes:so i have been seeing this girl for about a month now. i feel we are really well together. i couldn't be any happier and i want her to be my girlfriend. but she just got out of a relationship where she had been cheated on and has told me that she doesnt really want a boyfriend. she said this earlyer on in our "thing" it really seems like she likes me as much as i like her. should i go ahead and ask her to be my girlfriend and inform her that i wont treat her the way she has in the past or what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 October 2009):
 Yeh dude, give it time. Dont pressure her... I wouldnt even bring the topic up to be honest. Just have fun with her and be really easy going, there's no rush. Do this and in comparison to her last boyfriend I'd expect her to be ready for a relationship much sooner.
Its all very well to say to her that you wont treat her the way she was treated by her ex in the past... but actions speak much, MUCH louder than words..
Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): The best move you can make right now is to not pressure her since she clearly stated her intentions. Be there for her and take time to build on the trust that is building in this situation which is crucial if success is to be achieved with her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2009):
I think as it is, you need to spend more time getting to know her and gaining her trust. She has said she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment, which means she isn't over her past hurt. All you can do is be there, gently ask her about what happend in the past to her so she can come to terms with it and hopefully, if she does like you as much, she'll let you know. Don't as yet though, she's not ready.
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