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writes: my ex and i have been recently talking-0---i reached out a year later (he ended it but our problems didn't consist of anything that couldnt be changed)b/c i still had feelings and took a chance..well basically he said he can't just jump back to this which i agreed with and he said we will exchange calls and meet. We have been talking for over a month..it will be pretty much 2 months in november and i think its only been a couple of weeks or so that we sound more comfortable with each other and nicer on the phone...for the most part we have been taking turns calling and we will speak for hour, 45 minutes, some calls were even 2 hours so it seems like this is positive and he is interested it seems...there is still no mention of us meeting and i am getting anxious thinking maybe i should bring it up and just ask do you think it would be a good idea to meet within the next month or so (so there is no pressure with me setting a date for next week or something) or just wait another 2 weeks when it will be 2 months of us talking and then possibly ask...i don't want to put pressure since it seems we are at an ok place and maybe by me not waiting another 2 weeks or not being patient might push him away .. but its also a little confusing and nervewracking b/c i want to see him already and also don't want him to suddenly meet someone else and then i lost my chance...I am so glad we are talking again and don't want to ruin things or screw it up..I also don't think he would do this with other girls--break up, get back together etc so it does make me feel a little good..but its been a slow process so far...should i just be patient and continue talking while giving him more time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he already knows i am not going to be friends with him..why would he invest his time
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2009):
Well, I think it sounds like he's not interested in you as a girlfriend, but is as a friend. You could wait five months, and he still wouldn't give you the answer you want. I think you do need to ask where you stand, no matter what happens, because if you don't, you won't be able to move on. If he says he's not interested, then you haven't screwed up. It's just that he's not the guy for you. Don't waste time one someone who isn't interested. Ask him once and for all, and go from there. Good luck.
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