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writes:I am 18 years old and work part time at a supermarket at the checkout. There is this guy who comes in all the time and always comes through my checkout! Always! I think he is pretty cute and he seems nice from what I have seen of him so far, from our small conversations we have. He always smiles at me and looks me right in the eye. After I made a comment about him coming in so much, he said 'yeah i know i do, you cant keep me away from you'. Im a pretty shy person, but woudl like to get to know him better outside of work. I wouldnt be able to be so upfront and ask him for his number or anything like that. One of my friends suggested before woek, I write my number on some paper, then when i serve him, slip it into the bag. Do you think this is a bad idea? Would you be freaked out if you were in his shoes? Any other ideas that arent too scary?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Why not try to arrange to meet him somewhere like a pub where there are plenty of people around, and if he's up for it, have a couple of your mates come along too as 'chaperones'? That shouldn't be too difficult to arrange. Think 'safety in numbers'.
You can all get chatting to find out more about each other and if it appears safe to do so, your mates can sort of fade into the background for a while and let the two of you get on with it.
Have a taxi pre-booked to take you all home again, perhaps drop him off at his place if it's on the way, and at that point you can arrange another date if it still seems like a good idea.
If he still likes doing his shopping at your supermarket and using your checkout, you'll know he's still interested. My guess is he's already sussed out when you're working and when you're not!
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 No - don't give him your phone number. (Stranger-danger). And you are making yourself "too available" and vulnerable. Just say something like - "maybe you would like tell me your name and leave me a telephone number."
He knows where you work, and you give your phone number. You know nothing about him.
If he gives a number, you can ring can get to know more about him on phone. Where he works, does he have a wife, hobbies etc etc etc
He'll think more of you as well, rather than someone who gives her phone number out to strangers at the checkout.
Good luck.
Richard
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (22 November 2007):
 I wouldnt go down the 'slip the number in his bag route', you havent said if you know for sure if he is already involved or not.... Could be a VERY bad idea.
Best if you make some comment like ' your girlfriend likes making you shop huh?' and see what he says, if no other woman in the picture, then go right ahead and ask him what he is doing later, if the nswer is something along the lines of 'nothing much' ask if he would like to call you... take it from there xxxx good luck xxxx
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi,I agree with Tom, If you slipped your number In with his shopping It may get lost and he would never know you were interested also what if he has a girlfriend or wife and she found your number, I say that you are best to just ask him for a date and take It from there, you have nothing to lose!!
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reader, DearDolly +, writes (22 November 2007):
 From what you have said this guy is obviously making passes at you. I wouldn't be freaked out, your friends plan sounds perfect.Hope everything goes swell!Good luck.Dolly.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (22 November 2007):
 You have nothing to lose, but slipping the number into a bag really isn't cool. Just go for a straight forward "if you're free sometime, would you like to *insert activity here*?" the odds are he'll say yes, then just say "you'll need my number then", give him your number, bob's your uncle!
I daresay he will say yes after his keeping away comment too, defo sign he likes you =)
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