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writes:This is not a good day. Okay, where do i start?I guess i'll have to tell you everything so you can get it. This might be long.Sorry.I've been dating this guy for 4years now. We've been down some pretty tough roads. The first year he seem into it,into our relationship, he gave me a promise ring, and i gave him one. But we both threw em away. It seem like it put pressure on us that we weren't ready for at the time. Then we would break up every five mins. and this one time we broke up for a awhile and i....to him accordingly cheated on him...but again?! we weren't together at the time. So yes i told him..and ever since he changed completly. Everything seem calm threw the years, til my brother's girlfriend told me her close friend said she slept with my boyfriend so i called him at work and told him "i'm done", don't think about coming home, because at the moment he was staying with me, on top of everything! So he addmitted to me. Then he said "go ahead and leave me, im not worth it, you need someone better."Okay that was the first time he cheated. Okay the second time, he was walking to my house in the day and a girl across the street asks him if he had another cigerette, and he says no, then comes tells me when he gets inside the house, so you know i get mad, and he's likeing it. So he had a myspace back in the day and he doesn't mind if im right here on the comp. with him so or he forgets he has messages, so i read his message and it said "damn,you look good that day you came to talk to me." and she replied "don't you have a girlfriend and dont you live with her?" and he says "we're not working out right now" Okay that's the second time. Okay now the third time he was working late and thats believable but when he comes home im asleep already hes wathen tv and he wakes me and says "Do you hear that noise? ..it sounds like a vibrated phone?" So i wake up and find a call phone in his jacket pocket and i opened it and text messages were there so i read them and he texted a girl and was talkening with her , and being flirty, he got caught again! So the next time, this is all through the years we've been togther now, so he's at work and this guy who works with is very angry at him and threatins to beat him up, so my cousin was visiting and he's the one that got it out my bf and my cousin who is a guy tell's me and he said, "guy at work who thought was a friend cussed him out and said he's girlfriend told him that my bf was talking to her, so he got caught again, then i get on face book and i look up my bf name and this girl's page pops up and she's talking about him, " Aw {name} so and so misses me =(, i love him" thats what she put, so i msg. her and she tells me he's only a friend and that he use to call her all the time, so i said "do u know his gf's name"? because she didnt kno who was msg her. She said "yeah and she says my name." so thats before this new year, then my brothers gf says she seen him talken and walken with a girl around his home area. Then this morning about 3am, my house phone rings, And we were staying up late and watching movies cuddling, and i answer it, some guy asks for my bf, so give it to him, they talk for a min. then i ask him whos that he says his friend is partying. Then the phone ring 3 seconds later my bf answers it, im looking at him, because we don't get phone calls late at nite, so im looking at him, like who is it, and i hear a woman's voice, so my first thought was ok. its his mother,maybe something happened, then he starts talken like calm to her, he says "nothing...im at my girl's house......" then i asked him who is that? he said "a girl i use to talk to at work." i looked at him and i froze for second trying to process what he just said to me, and on top of that my brother was in the room, anyway he says it again but changes it "a girl i use to work with." so he hangs the phone right up. and i look at the caller i.d and it's the same number he friend just called on. So i get furious! like heated, my hands start to shake. Now iv;e been good iv'e been into the relationship where i love him truley! so my hands start to shake. He tells me to calm down and forget his friend and that girl,and he says he doesnt talk to her like that,he says he just talk to her at work ,that had to deal with work. So he tells me his friend was out to get him and did this on purpose. But the way my bf was acting was susipious! So his other friend comes up to my house on a bike and i didnt kno this dude but i asked "do u kno so and so, he says yeah but i wasnt there idk whats going on, i had nothing to do with that." so i asked my bf to call that number back and ask his friend why he let that girl call My house early the f**k in the morning? like hello. I was disrespected! and he couldnt get that, he couldn't see it that way. He always looks at it like "well you cheated on me when we were together, You cheated on me first, " like today after 4 years he always says this, and he dwells on it, and is obessed with it, he didn't get over it. Iv'e been really good to him. i haven't cheated on him since. I fell in love him. Its like everytime he does something too, somehow it always gets back to me at my house, like i dont go anywhere i never party. I dont i encourge him not to drink or smoke. Like we had plans. And his family had problems with me, and i thought that was the biggest deal in our relationship. But i really love him, im not just talking. My family does not like him. Now we've been though alot. So after that girl calls my house, he's acting weird i told him to call that number back and he flips out and tells me hell no i aint calling. so i told him to get out of my house were through!!! and i'm sooo mad at the same time sad. Because i know better, im smart. So my family hears and tells me ,dont get back with him?"why u even still with him? he's ugly let him go"! and i heard it all from way back. Now i really do not want advice who someones gonna tell, what ive been told. I just want someone whos been in my position to talk to me. Someone who can relate. I hope thats not too much to ask! please need someone to talk to!!! Remember i still love him but its the end for us! And he keeps calling me back after i kicked him out he didnt hesitae nothing he left like everything was positive! so hes calling me now, and hes leving to a differnt state to, in about a week from now. So now that he did it, he feels his consious is killin him and it'll probly get worse before he leaves. so he's calling me. i just need someone to talk to...just to be clear for what i did when we first started go out. is He's like sammi on the Jersey shore! if you watched it.....Ronnie messed up, and they went on togther but she dwelled on it and dwelled on it, like my bf, and got him back 2x harder. Thats what my bf did sure i kinda messed up at first but we werent together and i told him,i could of lied, and he kept cheated on me while we were together and told me well you cheated on me, like he payed me back if he felt hurt, he payed me back 100x harder. so just experiened readers please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): I think you should just leave him. I know you don't want to hear it but its true!
Me and my boyfriend are like this but the other way around. I talk to guys and flirt and they call me and every now and again I get caught. I keep doing it because I get away with it. He will moan about it for a while then all I have to do is be nicer than usual cook him a meal and give him some ice cream and he's like putty in my hands again.
The only reason I do it is because I can get away with it and he always takes me back.
Maybe next time you shouldn't accept this sort of behaviour from your next partner. Sorry if I sound harsh but stop being a doormat. You said you are smart but it doesn't sound like it. People only do something if they think they can get away with it. And he is getting away with it. So he's going to keep doing it.
And that's the truth so kick his ass to the kerb x
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 I have 5 words for you. " Leave the lying, cheating boyfriend"
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