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writes:My partner and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We desided it would be best to take a good break from one another as our whole relationship we have been living together. I was really gutted about the breakup and really love him alot, we are getting along alot better now and things look like they could work out... There is an age gap between us im 22 and hes 29. I moved out and am living with a friend and to be honest I love it, half of me wants to re-kindle the relationship but the other half really wants to get out and travel, have a good time. I would get to travel if we did get back together but it wouldnt be for a good 5 years due to his work commitments.Any advice??
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reader, this_years_love  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 TRAVEL TRAVEL TRAVEL!!!!I cannot stress how much being on the road will bring you clarity!!! Either you will realize how much you love him and will go home more ready to commit and feeling a little more settled and a lot less like you have to 'find yourself'. Or, you will find who you are in so many different ways you can't even fathom before you leave, and will realize what you do want out of life and be prepared to go after it and realize this relationship isn't it. Honestly, travelling after high school should be mandatory. Getting out of where you grew up (I'm not just talkin your home town, get out of Australia! I live in Aus too and adore it but I am Canadian) trust me, getting out of the country you are most comfortable in will do WONDERS for how you see the world and your place in it. Hit the road! listen to different music! pick a different name!!! Getting on the road with nobody who knows who you are and being around people who have no expectations of you really allows you to become everything you want to be but are holding back from being. Look into Vanuatu (about half way between aus and fiji)--flights are around $550 return from brissy or melb (not sure about other cities) on Air Vanuatu (and you get free wine on board), and you can stay for as little as $100 a week in accomodation, and the life style is unbelievable...hang out there for a month! They are the happiest nation in the world for good reason AND it's not touristy at all (you dont feel like they're just putting on a show for you, it is how it looks) although there are many wonderful things to see there. You will make local friends (they love showing people their country) and it is extremely safe!! Wherever you go, TRAVEL!!!!!!! And if you want to know more about me and my experience doing much the same at a similar age to you (I'm 21 now and left my home town at 16 and haven't gone back) please inbox me and i'd LOVE to tell you all about it!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Why did you break up? What were the issues in your relationship? Do you want to be single for a while or do you want to be in a relationship? Can you afford to go travelling right now? Or would you have to wait a while? Would you be happy to wait 5 years to go travelling? Or is it important to you that you go now?
There really is not enough information in this post, it just sounds like you have broken up despite getting on well and now you are considering going travelling. Without knowing any further information there is no help I can give you I'm afraid.
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