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writes:Hello all, After a horrible year and a break up with a guy with an addiction, I feel like I want to get my life on track. I'm 37, now single, female with no kids. I feel like I have wasted so many years on bad choices and now would like control in my life and would like to make some good and positive decisions for once. I'm renting my friends house with someone who is moving out in weeks time. The rent and bills are quite high and I have two options, advertise for a flat mate or move in with my mother for next to nothing (she lives alone) and get my head down for a deposit to either buy or rent a place on my own.I'm so undecided. My mum is lovely and I know i could handle it for approx 6 months but worry that if I met someone, I would wish I was still renting so he could come over and also worry I lok pathetic moving home with mum - like a failure.Any advice would be great...Advertise for someone to move in with me and keep independance or move home with mum temporaily for winter and try to find place for just me???xx so confused and feeling like I need something to go right for me for once x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 I vote for mom. You get along with her , and she's family anyway ,- it may feel weird for a while, then again who tells you that the new roommate could not be the roomate from hell and stress you out even more.
It's only temporary- 6 months will pass fast. As for meeting someone and bringing him home, well hopefully you could go to HIS place, or you could have weekend getaways . Plus, it's not as if you already have a man- you may meet someone within six months, or you may not, so it makes more sense to start saving money now , and if you meet a guy ... you'll cross that bridge when you'll reach there.
Looking pathetic ? Only if YOU feel pathetic and send out " I am pathetic " vibes, that people are ready to catch on. But if you consider it simply as a TEMPORARY, rational, convenient step to a better financial future, there is nothing pathethic about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): Its a hard one - I can see pros and cons with moving back home. Speaking as a mother who's children are adults and have moved out n on - I would find it pretty hard but not impossible to have my now adult children back home.
If mums offered to help then it is a temporary solution to getting back on track yourself, a stepping stone to a new life.You have only a week before your friend moves out - so have to think quick and find somebody you could live and get along with.Its not pathetic, lots of relationships break down and going home for a while is an option they take.
As far as having somewhere to take a boyfriend - he would probably have a home you could go to?
If you really can't afford to get a cheaper place to rent right now then I would set a savings goal/plan and move in with mum for a while.
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