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writes:I know this is a relationship help site... but I really need advice and I love the advice the agony aunts (and uncles) give here... so I'm hoping someone can help me out here.I am a freshman in college and I am miserable. I don't like the college, I don't like the teachers and I'm not making any connections. I'm just not motivated. I want to withdraw at semester and take a semester off and work and get motivated and then go to a different college next year, but my mom told me no. she says if I leave I won't go back and that I should just stick it out. But should I really force myself through another semester at a college I hate where I'm not even motivated? Reply to this Question
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reader, SV  +, writes (2 December 2009):
I think that you're finding it hard to settle which is why you want to leave. I'd advise you to go and talk to someone such as a Vicar/priest or any one who does that kind of work in your college. Leaving would be a very bad idea and I can guarantee you that if you do you won't go back again. The first few months are naturally tough but they get easier. Stick with college and get your degree as it can open up so many doors for you later on in life. Good luck and all the best :)
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (2 December 2009):
Hang in there. I can assure you that once you start making money you will not want to return to college. Just follow it through.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 December 2009):
 I work at a university and you are suffering from what we call the "freshman blues". Some kids feel homesick, some just feel lost and overwhelmed. We always counsel them to hang in there at least through the entire freshman year. We also try to encourage them to get involved in some of the student organizations and activities. I recommend you stop by your counseling center on campus and just talk to one of the counselors there, you are not suffering from a strange malady, it's so very common. You'll be alright sweetheart, give it the old college try okay?
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (2 December 2009):
 The first semester is always the hardest; things may be easier in the spring, so stick it out and finish this year. Winter break will also give you time to relax and you can go back refreshed. Taking classes that you're interested in next spring may help you enjoy the semester more; your advisor probably already has your courses outlined, but you can deviate from it. Taking classes you like will help you keep your GPA up, and that will make transferring easier. If you are absolutely set on transferring,start looking for schools to transfer to NOW because so you can meet application deadlines. This way you can be ready to go back to school next fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): Don't stop going instead why don't you give it a chance. Are you the quiet shy one in class? Don't be afraid to talk!! Take this as a new experience that can be rewarding in the end. As someone who wasn't allowed to go to school and now finally can I can tell you its worth it. If you need to only take one class and work do both. Just have fun with it.
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