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writes:Ok heres the layout.... Me and my wife has been together for 7 years sept 13 we have been married for the last 2 of the 7 we have a beautiful son that is turning 1 year on oct 1 i am really excited and for those of you wandering he was planned not a mistake.. i am 25 she is 21 and they are both my world idont know what i am going to do without them i mean i will get to see my son but only half his life if we keep the current plan but anyway thats a diffrent story.. i thought everything was good i mean we had problems but nothing major just little aruguements about little stuff but not all the time so for the most part everything is good well at least i thought.... Well on her friends birthday she wanted to goto the bar with her and we couldnt find a babysitter so i told her go and have fun and i would sit home and watch the baby my first mistake so she does and has fun well the very next friday she went to college and told me after school she was going to goto her other friends house i was like ok have fun love you she said i love then she never came home!!!! and i find out the next day she was staying at this dudes house (the dd for the birthday party) and she just stayed there she left the baby with me and i didnt hear from her for like three days then she calls wanting to know when she can ome get the baby... so we work out a parenting plan where she gets him one week and i get him the next. OK so she has been gone for a month then one day she came over and we had kissed the next thing i know she is at her friends making a pros and cons list on me and the other dude then she says she wants to come home i am estatic so happy i cant stand it on the 2nd day back she said it felt werid being with me on the forth she says she is not in love with me but she still loves me and that she wants to leave i think that she should give it a little more time then 5 days what do you think i mean of course it feels werid we have been apart for a month but the other question is what should i do let her leave fight for it or what give her space i dont know what to do i love this girl more than anything and i dont wont her out of my life forever ???Thanks in advance for the answers sorry it was so long i have no one i can really talk to but my friends and there no help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (10 September 2009):
I know first hand how hard it is to let go. I commen you for just letting her go. You cant make someone love you if they dont want to... Let her be... When she realizes that she made a mistake she will try and come back again.. The grass to her seems greener on the other side right now. I hope that when she decides she made a mistake that you have enough dignity to tell her no. It is her loss not yours. You just take care of your son. Someone who you deserve will come into your life and she will be yesterdays news...Try and preoccupy yourself with getting over her and be happy...AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD never ever forget what she did.. Never forget how she left you sitting at home with your son while she was out whoring around...More than likely when shes sees you happy and with someone else she will want to come home. Then you will see what a selfish woman she really is.. It takes time but wounds do heal. She is only preoccupied with her own selfish needs you dont need her...Stop letting her control you and take back control of your own life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i was not happy!! i was happy when she said she was coming back home when she had left for 3 days she stayed gone for a month and then after that month we had just got back together but its all over now she said she wants to leave she is packing while i type... i was not all smiles i was torn apart from every angle i hated every moment of it but when she said she wanted to come back home i was happy i dont know why i just was i know that its stupid but i love her more than anything other than my son.. i was very upset but i had tried all i could do we have been back together for 5 days and she says that she is not in love with me and as much as it hurts i told her to do what makes her happy... but i see were i typed it wrong she went to the birthday party one week and the next week is when she left and when she left she didnt come back till now she was gone for a month.... but even though i told her to leave it still hurts so bad i cant stand it what am i sposed to do?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): Give her some space - she either wants you or she doesn't and if you fight for her you will pressure her into making a decision based on that pressure alone. She is disrespecting you and you have the chance of showing her that is not acceptable by removing yourself from it.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (9 September 2009):
Sorry but shes playing you like a piano. She sound like she wants to come homme because of the sense of security you might give her but thats it. Question is, why on eaarth do you want a woman that says shes going out disappears for 3 days comes back? you find out she hanging out with some dude who by the way she totally had sex with...i mean please open your eyes shes using you.She sounds like she hot one minute cold the next... She couldve gone out caught a disease & bring it home to you & your child. She sounds full of it. She does not love you, love doesnt mmake you disappear for 3 days & spend the night with other guys especially after you gave her 7years of your life.
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reader, weparley +, writes (9 September 2009):
Are you kidding me? ...Did I just read what I thought I read?
Your wife was at another mans house. Left you with the soon to be 1 year old. And you mean to tell me. You're not upset?
"Dude what planet are you from?" What man knows that his wife is at another mans house for countless days... Doing God knows what(do the math) and the husband is at home waiting for with great joy for her to get back?
Dude you need a wake up call.
#1 It's clear that she can careless what your feeling are
#2 How could you allow your wife to sleep at another mans house and you're all (smiles)
Question? Is this some kind of open relationship, you all have?
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