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writes:hi met my boyfriend in class i'm 32 he's 21 we hit off right away studing for test and hangin out at school over spring break i noticed he liked me and he said he did and we started dating. i have already met his family including grandmom and have went to plenty family gathering they adore me and think i'm thebest thing siance slice bread. i ask him what was the oldest girl he dated and he said 30 and that he likes older women 21-30. so the promblem is i lied and told him i was 27 and even told his mom that. i don't know why i lied i guess i never dated a guy younger then me i've always dated guys my age so this relationship is different by the way everyone in our class thought i was 24. his parents are 10 years apart and he always bring that up to make me feel comfortable. he tells me to be patient with him and don't give up on him because he likes me a lot and so do i but i'm wondering should i just tell him i'm 32 and get it over with or should i wait until it getsmore serious joking with him i askedwhat if i was 32 would he still want to be with me hesaid yes. he's 6'3 inches tall his aunts can already see u getting married in the future my young looks r deceieving i need help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): If you really like you will tell straight away! He won't care if he really likes you. Look at it as a nice little "love"-test.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Hi. I would just tell him and get it over with. It will be easier to do it now rather than wait, because the longer you leave it the worse you will feel. My partner owned up to a few lies after we had been together a year and he felt it was safe to confess. I thought him a little unfair and sneaky for doing that to me and its still a sore point. On the other hand... i lied to him about my age when we met. I dropped 2 years. It bothered me and i owned up within the first week of knowing him. It was taken well by him and i dont think he even remembers it now. The choice is yours but i know what i would do x
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I'd wait until he tells you he's completely and utterly in love with you. That way you know he's not going to bail over something silly like that. Just try to avoid talking about it (without looking obvious and raising more suspicions) and let it ride. If your relationship is really going to become serious, it won't matter in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): He can find out if he googles you, without you telling him. But isn't quite a diference. Off the topic: why would you want to date someone sooo much younger that u? He is just a kid, and you ready to have some kids of your own/ Just a thought how women make all the wrong choices and then end up with no families, no kids to love.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 July 2010):
You do need to tell him. I'm dating an older woman (13 years older), and she originally said she was ten years older than me. She did come clean, to be fair, and it didn't affect me to be honest. Hopefully, it won't affect him. But logically, at some point, he will find out. So just tell him that you didn't tell him the truth because you like him so much and you were worried he wouldn't be interested (stroke his male ego while you tell him, that will soften it no end). You do need to tell him, but it's not as big as it seems.
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