A
female
age
36-40,
*bs88
writes:My boyfriend and I fool around almost every time we see each other. He goes down and me and is fantastic! I go down on him and he won't stay hard. He insists that it feels awesome, but his penissays otherwise. He claims to just get really nervous when I go down on him. I've always been told my blow job skills were great by every other guy I've dated. Not sure what to do about this because I really enjoy giving blow jobs. How can I make him not nervous??
View related questions:
blow-job Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Stop obsessing about his erections. If he didn't like being in bed with you he wouldn't be in bed with you. He just needs a few more weeks to overcome his performance anxiety, which is quite common among young men in the beginning of new relationships, particularly if he does not have a lot of experience.
A
male
reader, lsickle +, writes (21 July 2010):
well the not nervous part is up to him...but u can try a few things...u could try before just rushin down there talk sexy or dirty to him.....work up his appitite...and this one seems to be one that for some reason people get weird about...ask him how he likes it....tell him how u like it direct him show him how its done. Plus actually just talking about sex as easy as it would be to discuss work or theweather might be the best route
...............................
A
female
reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 You can't. Only he can stop being nervous. So try this; instead of giving him a full-blown blow job, just use it as foreplay and then allow him to do you (since you enjoy it without obsessing) this may enable him to get his erection back and still be able to perform. It may take some time before he stops feeling nervous when you go down on him. Don't talk about it anymore; just be natural and if you sense he's losing his erection, just move to something else. The less said the better. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Maybe he isn't ready for that level of intimacy yet. Are you the first girl ever he has been that intimate with?
I don't think it has anything to do with your skills! But I think he has a problem staying erect, and maybe a problem relaxing. And I don't think he knows why, so he excuses himself with being nervous. Which can of course be true... but it would be odd to be nervous if you two are otherwise comfortable as a couple, and you are not his first ever girlfriend.
Give this more time if you care about the guy. Then see if the erection-issue goes away. If he doesn't manage to stay hard after... say at least 14 tries, then you know for sure he has a problem, and he should go see his doctor.
...............................
|
