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writes: I was sexually abused when I was 6 and I always tell the guy I'm seeing about it so they can understand things I have a problem with or make me feel uncomfortable in the bedroom. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and we're in love. What happened when I was younger really gets to him and he often says he wants to beat up etc. the guy that did it to me.I know it must hurt when someone you love has been through something like that but is he over-reacting? I'm not mad at the guy who did it to me anymore, I just feel sorry for him. But I suppose I've had 12 years to come to terms with it. Guys, would you react this way if you found out someone had done this to your girlfriend? And girls, would you tell your boyfriend or keep quiet? Advice from anyone please. Thanks xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (17 October 2005):
 If you feel uncomfortable being touched in some way or are still telling your boyfriends about this, obviously you are NOT over what this jerk did to you or it wouldn't still be bothering you in any way. You should do something about this. You can't go your whole life feeling uncomfortable because of what someone did to you. Make your life better. Seek your justice you deserve.
When you keep telling your boyfriends about this, they're probably wondering why would you be ok with this guy now. Do you understand what he did to you? No man has a right for any actions of that sort. Do something about this guy's freedom, if he did it to you, what about all the other little kids that are in his presence?? They're not safe either. How can you be ok with someone that has done something like this to you? It's not okay what he did!
If you don't want anyone to react the way your boyfriend is reacting, don't tell them. It's common sense that if someone made you uncomfortable and still you have that kind of feeling 12 years later, go to court, sue him! He don't have any right for this and stop feeling sorry for him. He's obviously sick in the head and needs to be put away.
Do something right to make you more comfortable in situations. You don't need to go through life feeling the way that you do. Get counciling and get that guy put away. PLEASE!!!! I'm sure you'd feel better about yourself and you'd be helping out anyone else that he may do that to!
Good Luck!! Please do something about this.
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reader, pops +, writes (17 October 2005):
Any guy worth being with would want to beat a child abuser to within a inch of his life. That is part of guy world. If you don't understand it, chalk it to being a woman. There are a lot of things women feel and do that men don't understand, either. If you are only 18, you may still be able to file suit against the abuser to get money damages to pay for counseling, that you still need, among other things. See an attorney. Generally, minors are given a year after they reach the age of majority to file any suit that may have been filed on their behalf when they were a minor, but were not. I think what your boyfriend wants is to see you get some kind of justice from this creep. Talk to him about it, and talk to an attorney.
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