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writes:So I've been being a little intimate with this guy, he reached "down there" and I made sure I shaved all the way just to be safe. I'm not sure what he prefers though. It's really uncomfortable for me to shave, but I just don't want to ask him about it because I think it's awkward to ask. I know for sure that he prefers shaved legs, and he likes to think that girls don't fart, poop, etc. lol but I don't know if that's different. I feel like he might be grossed out if I'm hairy. Should I just go all the way bare down there or just keep it neat? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 If you are having sex I think you should be able to talk to each other about it. No matter what it is.
So if you want to groom yourself in your vaginal area for him, then ask him what his preference is and then you will know. Shaving really does suck, wax really hurts and you can't really use the spray on your genitalia, so it's also up to you and what you feel comfortable doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): keep it neat. Otherwise you make a rod for your back (it's much more delicate than your legs)
I for once would never want to put hot wax on my privates and then rip it off. And although i did once tackle shaving my privates when i was younger, i would never never do it again due to problems after doing so.
And if you shave, but then forget to shave it for a few days, then you'll find it's so scratchy, itchy and likely to irritate yours and his skin with the hard stubble that erupts.
Shaving increases the chances of ingrown hairs in the area shaved. You can briskly rub your legs to avoid this, but once again, 'down there' is more sensitive skin and so you are less likely to briskly rub after any form of exfoliating.
Plus who would ever want to go to the Dr with an infected painful ingrown hair 'down there'?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 November 2010):
Hi there. As far as how you wear your pubic hair is concerned, this is your business - not his.
It's your choice completely. Do what pleases you always, not what pleases others (or what you think pleases others). Always do things to please you - it's your life and so it's only your decision.
It's going to be much more comfortable to have your pubic hair natural as it grows. It's more natural looking to have a healthy growth of hair. There's nothing disgusting about it at all.
The uncomfortable part about shaved pubic hair, is that within a couple of days, it starts to grow back and can become really, really itchy! Unbearably so. This is something that might change your mind about shaving it in future.
Removing the hair off your legs is another matter entirely. You can always wax them yourself, or get them done by a beautician, very easily. It only takes a few minutes. Then the smoothness lasts for about 4-6 weeks.
I like what you said that he doesn't like girls "farting or pooping", that's funny.
Perhaps while it's all new - the relationship - try to refrain from farting in front of him, at least until you get to know him better. There's nothing wrong with farting, it's perfectly normal. It's better to fart than to put up with a belly ache, that's for sure.
Even if you have to leave the room and walk to another room, or the bathroom and close the door and fart there - and go berserk. Surely he can't be offended by that, after all you left the room to do it. In a way, it's like showing respect to him.
In new relationships, farting in front of each other is probably the most awkward of all things to do. It's like a graduation when you actually do your first fart. It sounds funny, I know - but it's true.
I used to do this when my husband and I first went out - leave the room, fart in another room, then come back. I'd say to him - "Tony, I have to fart", so then I'd walk out of that room and into another, fart - then return again.
After a while, a couple of weeks perhaps, he then said - "It's ok, you can do it here", then I did. It was all systems go from then on. No more awkwardness after that. It was a real breakthrough.
It's something for you to consider after a little while, when you get to know each other better.
Just relax and be yourself. You are perfect as you are, so don't feel you have to make changes. It's not necessary at all.
Take care and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): I think the safe bet would be to go bare. But if u r getting that intimate then u should be able to ask eachother anything.
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