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writes:Hello, this is my first time posting qns here... Anyway, there is this girl I like, and she already knew since i had told her. and it seems that she has been giving me several signal that she likes me as well.The problems is that she have several commitments going on. Because of that, she couldn't find time easily to meet up with me, except going home with me after school last time.Just past 2 months or so, i'm trying to ask her whether is she free to go home after school with me, but because she found alternative road to get her home slightly faster, she doesn't seems to be wanting to home with me. I was thinking, if she truly likes me, she would choose to go home with me right rather than going to alternate road?I'm tired of doing most of the chasing here, and she doesn't show me some effort. So just few weeks ago, I tried to move on as we haven't talk for a long time, and she doesn't initate any chat with me. But all of a sudden, she talks to me again today.Question is I do not know does she really like me or not. I am very confused. Should i be moving on, or should i continue chasing her? I'm seriously tired of doing all the chasing here, currently she doesn't know how i am feeling now, and that i am actually trying to move on here.And there is another thing i seriously don't get it, is that, there are several times she suddenly ask me whether do i still like her? I asked her why, but she said is just a curosity, but i have been thinking of what actually trigger her 'curosity'? Does she really like me that is why she ask me, or is it really purely curosity? She making me extremely confused...
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (30 November 2010):
Sometimes women are complicated. I should know, I am one. The thing about relationships and guys is that sometimes we, as women want to get all the answers before we ask the questions. Women tend to be cautious, we do not put our heart out there so that it can be squashed into tiny pieces.
I think your friend really likes you. There are all the signs: Asking questions like 'do you like me'? and as you mentioned there are the other signs which you would know. The reason why it seems like you are doing all the chasing are:
1. Committments. Like you said, she is involved in various activities and these can probably create a barrier. Do not give up hope ( as I notice many men tend to run away from me when they find that I am quite busy).
2. The other times when she is not busy, I think she is shy or afraid. You mentioned that you would love for the two of you to walk home together. I think that is a great idea but she probably sees it as rushing ( and I will tell you this, women love to take it slow especially where they are new to relationships). So, making excuse or taking an alternate road maybe her way of avoiding the problem.
I think that you should not cease to let her know how you feel because it is obvious she feels the same way too (hence the asking of the questions). Also, try to be patient, do not stress over the fact that you are doing all the chasing now because I am sure that one day it will pay off and you would be happy you chased her!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Get used to it kid, women are crazy.
What I don't get is why you can't walk with her on this new route home she takes? Is it that far out of your way?
I think you should just tell her how you feel and see what happens. Then you'll know if the chase was worth it. To me, she doesn't sound that interested, but she may just be really shy.
Tell her you like her and want to date her. See what she says. Since you've put in this much effort, you deserve an answer, don't you think?
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