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writes:Okay what should I make of this? My b/f said he had to go out on a field trip with a female co-worker today. He had her come by our house and pick him up at 7:00 AM. This was a little weird, as he usually drives to work and employees take a field truck from there. But when he was getting dressed for work this morning, I noticed he put on his pants and didn't wear any underwear. He says he sometimes doesn't wear them but that's news to me! I've been living with him for 2 yrs. and he always wears them. This female co-worker is single. She's not a knock-out, but she's cute, thin, has long sandy-blonde hair and they work in the same field so they think alike, and share a few similar interests. She's supposedly an"engineer" but I've noticed that she always claims to "get lost" when she's out in the field alone, and can never find the markers or the roads she's suppose to be surveying, so it's been her habit to ask my b/f to go with her. Should I be concerned? Our relationship has been fine otherwise. Please advise.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 I REALLY think you're over thinking this. I could be totally wrong but underwear never got in the way when a woman wanted to go down on me. If you're taking down the pants, the underwear comes down just as easily. If you want to twist it a different way, you can convince yourself you're correct too.
If you had told me he was putting on cologne and he'd never worn it before or he was using hair gel for the first time I might wonder. Not wearing underwear and feeling more sexual....that could be. Who knows. All I know is with the evidence you've got, it's very inconclusive and proves nothing.
If you have doubts, keep an eye on him. Make mental notes about little things that make you wonder. See if they coincide with time spent with this woman. It's one of those things that nobody can give you absolute guarantees about. If th evidence starts to demonstrate that you're correct....talk to your guy. He'll be defensive and you'll have to really corner him to prove anything. Don't go off the handle too quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Eddie, I would simply say -- convenience. I realize underwear can come off just as easily as they go on, they are certainly not made with locks, but there's something about knowing a guy is not wearing any on a day when he's going out in the field with a female co-worker that makes me wonder why he'd do this when he normally wears them. Does it make him feel more sexual? Permiscuous? Like a bad boy? And if she does want to go down on him, it would be a lot less confining, than fighting through an elastic band, holding it back while doing the act. You tell me. You're a guy. Why would a man skip wearing them? And no, he has no problems in the nether-region, just seems like there would be chafing, considering things rubbing against his pants all day.
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reader, eddie +, writes (29 August 2007):
What would he have to gain by not wearing underwear?
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reader, duce00  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 I agree with the previous post. What I dont understand is the no boxers thing. Sure once in a while I will go sans boxers but not if Im going to be working hard or exercising. Thats weird to me because it can actuly be rather painful. Id ask him about that...maybe his got some issues with his "equipment" and isnt saying anything. Wouldnt that turn out to be ironic!
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (29 August 2007):
 I wouldn't be concerned quite yet, but pay attention to little details from now on and keep tabs of them. It does seem a little odd his actions this morning, but don't get too hyped up about it quite yet. Has he been acting differently towards you? If yes, something might be going on.....you'll find out eventually.
Good Luck!!
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reader, Beckto +, writes (29 August 2007):
 One single incident like this wouldn't make me really concerned. File that in your memory and if you see other things that seem out of the ordinary, then get concerned. Where's there's smoke, there's fire, yes. But make sure it's really smoke you're smellin'.
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