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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and abit, and recently i have become close with his family! i am 16, his sister 20 has invited me to her 21st birthdayI am scared because her friends will be there, who are quite different and because of the age difference too... my boyfriend will be there and so will his entire family (russian and traditional serb) including his grandparentshow should i act around the grandparents? how will i fit in with her friends? and enjoy myself at the same time?how do i build more confidence and not be so shy around the grandparents but act the same time a lil less silly and mature?HELP PLEASE
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Why are you giving all your power away to adults you dont know? Be you and enjoy your time there. Being shy or scared will instantly be picked up by everyone there. You go to the party wearing you favorite causal clothing and take cues from your boyfriend. You treat his grandparents just like you'd treat your own and strike up conversations with the sister's friends. Just because you are younger dont mean you have to act your age. Be mature and a delight to talk to. Stay away from being shy & quiet. Ask questions about the food, cultural customs and etc. Be the life of the party and gracious to the birthday girl! have a good time.
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reader, MissShiv  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 This is something I have little experience with ! My boyfriend is an Austrian American whose immediate family lives in the Netherlands and his extended family lives in Austria. Every year his family throws a big bash in Austria, and as we were getting pretty serious at the time, he wanted to show me off to his family. Needless to say I was a little nervous! I arrive at this party, where everyone is babbling away in German, of which I speak VERY little, and his mother is ushering me around to everyone saying very loudly "She's E.n.g.l.i.s.h....". Soon after initial introductions I just clunge to my boyfriend and let him do the talking! Now and again english speaking relatives would pop up to me out of curiousity, and at one point during the evening I had a staring contest with a little kid who kept taking my picture :) Other than dinner which was a bit strange, Thomas having to translate jokes 30 seconds after the punch line had been told and everyone had roared with laughter, it was fairly pleasant day. Just be yourself, it's cliche but it's true. In circumstances like that it's all you can do. There's no getting around a few nerves, but as long as you are polite and talkative you'll be fine! Don't try and act older than you are, you'll just end up looking silly! You might not click with his friends, I didn't with my fella's, but all he'll care about is that you've tried. P.S. Don't have a panic attack at his party, like I did in Holland ;) I didn't look too clever.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (29 August 2007):
 All I can say is just be yourself. My partner's parents 30th wedding anniversary a couple of years back I went through exactly the same emotions. All I can recommend is just be yourself, be polite to them all especially his family and don;t drink too much. I know you said you're only 16 so may not drink alcohol at all but I just thought I'd put it there just incase :D
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