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anonymous
writes:Ok, so my husband and I are both military he is away in training and was using another man's phone (Joe) when he came across pics of that man's wife naked. He then sent them to another one of his friends (Bob). That friend then turned around and sent it to my husbands cell phone. The only reason i even found out about the pic was because Bob's wife was snooping though her husbands phone and found the pic. She then called me and told me about it. I called my husband and confronted him. He admitted to sending the pic to Bob and that its wasn't anything sexual it was meant as a joke because Joe's wife cheats on him all the time. (Honestly i think my husband is covering for Joe. I think Joe sent the picture) What makes me even more upset is myself and Bob's wife went over to Joe's house and told her about it. She wasnt even upset, she all most seemed flattered. I just don't know what to do. Should i be angry? I mean other than this my husband is a great guy. Im just so confused!!!It seems like all three husbands are lying for eachother.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Blokes banter! Totally out of order in that respect, but if the woman in question doesn't care, then I wouldn't worry personally. Although I expect like me, you would be horrified if it was yourself! Strange senses of humours blokes have at times dont they!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 I think there isn't much to be confused about. No matter what happened, the only person that YOU are married to is you husband, and his being your husband is the one that you need to NOT be confused about. It's quite straightforward. He should not have pictures of naked women on his cell phone. It doesn't matter if it's a joke or not, it doesn't matter if it's someone else's spouse, and it doesn't matter if she's a tramp or not. Lets stick with the reason why you are angry. He is married to you, and he should not have naked women on his cell phone. Period. He is married to you, and out of respect to your marriage, he shouldn't have participated in this. I don't care if it's his phone or not, because you know darn well how your husband would feel if YOU had a naked picture of someone else's husband on your cell phone. CAN YOU IMAGINE THE FIREWORKS AND THE RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION? I'm quite sure that your husband would bring up the subject of divorce in THAT argument, Right? So, why do we dismiss it as "Boys will be boys" when they behave badly and accept all kinds of excuses for it? It's not confusing. It's wrong for him to have naked people on his phone, and he knows it. AND Yes, there are a whole lot of other levels of wrong here, from him lying about who put it there and why, to violating someone else's privacy, stealing from a friends personal cell phone, and even coveting another man's (slutty) wife, but the only thing that you should focus on is that he should not have that picture on his cell phone, for any reason.
If I found pictures of someone else's naked wife on my husbands cell phone, it would become his suppository. Then I would wash it in the washing machine, dry it in the dryer, and then microwave it to disinfect it. Then I would by him a "CRICKET" so that he didn't have the opportunity to upload any photos on it at all. (Those are those no-frills simple phones that they market to older people.) Sometimes, you have the right to get really bloody angry at your spouse. Now would be the time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Its really weird.she seemed flattered?something fishy going on here.
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