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writes: hi, i posted a question on 8th march 06, the title was There is agirl calling and txting my boyfriend, he says they are just friends, is this true? i got 2 replies, i know it was a while back but im having the same feelings about the situation, what shall i do? my boyfiend has completed hes degree at college now and this girl left ages ago before him, although i trust him completely now and hes a great partner and father it just feels like im missing something about this other girl, like there was more to it thenhe has told me, i want the truth! do you think i should trace this girl and ask her myself? or am i reading too much into it? please help
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reader, Celeste  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 I had a very similar experience to the one that you are going through now.
My boyfriend lied to me whenver we first started going out about another girl. For months and months I didn't believe what he had told me, then I found out that he had kept something from me, and once he had told me, we moved on from that.
What you need to do, is ask yourself if you can really trust your instincts, or if they are just paranoia.. You need to be sure about what you know, not just what you think you know, if you are planning on confronting him.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): I had a very similar experience to the one that you are going through now.
My boyfriend lied to me whenver we first started going out about another girl. For months and months I didn't believe what he had told me, then I found out that he had kept something from me, and once he had told me, we moved on from that.
What you need to do, is ask yourself if you can really trust your instincts, or if they are just paranoia.. You need to be sure about what you know, not just what you think you know, if you are planning on confronting him.
Good luck!
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 If you really trust him, believe that there was nothing going on between him and that other girl. remember, curiousity kills the cat.
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reader, farsight  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 Honesty, Integrity and Trustworthy. A famous person once said I think therefore I am. Put blankly means I think that I think therefore I think I am. What I am trying to say is if you think there is something more with this other girl, who is in the past then there is. You will end up spending your time looking for things telling you there is something more with this girl. I know I have had this problem. Just let her GO, and value the time you have with your significant other. Make the most of it. If you trust him then you just need to trust yourself. It comes down to what you think. Think more about yourself being with him and let the other girl go. :) Good Luck and Happy thoughts
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reader, thenabear +, writes (15 November 2006):
 I have one thing to say and the only advice I know to offer. Do not ask questions that you do not want answered. If you trust him and believe it. act like it. If you wanna trace this girl. You do not trust him or believe him. It could be he cheated. It could be your insecure. Know that you want the truth before you seek it. I know everyone says honesty is best. Yet I,ve seen alot of happy homes ruined because no one could bury the past. The choice is yours to make. Make your decision wisley and think on it long and hard before you do.
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