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writes:Prom is just around the corner and I don't really have anyone to go with planned. Well today me and my friend talked with a girl I have a little bit of a history with. I used to hang out with her cousin, and back then she showed interest in me as more then a friend. Well back then i will put it bluntly, i was a coward when it came to this sort of thing, and it still makes me uncomfortable. Me and her cousin drifted apart as friends and so did we, but she does talk to me if the opportunity but we don't know each other that well anymore. Well as soon as i told my friend this he thought I should ask her to go with me because she doesn't have anyone to go with yet. I do find her attractive and she is pretty nice and i personally have nothing against it. I feel like she is a little out of my league because we don't talk really any more and she is attractive. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, but for some reason I can't shake this feeling, and I know I will lock up and throw all of my self esteem out the window and have my shyness kick in again. Should I ask her out and any tips for how to handle getting nervous?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks i plan on asking her friday, ill post the result on here, hopefully things go well.
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reader, peach459  +, writes (17 February 2009):
If you like her, just go for it! :) It sounds like you more than have a chance. Girls, even beautiful girls, are often insecure too. She's most likely worrying that no one will ask her to prom. Good luck!
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reader, anoms +, writes (17 February 2009):
 dude, stay cool about your insecurities and ask your friend to ask this girl to the prom for you if your nervous right now, now i hate to set the wrong example but if your over 18 why dont you have a couple of drinks so you loosen up on the night, it'l make you feel a hell of alot better, i dont drink but my friends do it all the time. well take care and stay strong, gudluk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): tips on getting nervous - um stammer, speak like an idiot all work well....
oh you wanted how to not be nervous - difficult and the nervous can help....
deep breathing and visualise the out come you want will help. don't feel hurt if she says no. laughter helps lots - its the only weapon i have used...
think about it... before you talk to her you dont have a date. If she says no you still don't have a date so you have lost nothing and gained at least the experience of asking.... where as if she says yes, well...the world is your lobster...
have some balls ask her out, stop thinking, just do.
Star.x
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