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writes:So my ex kept booty-calling me, and I finally stopped that. I told him to leave me alone but before I was able to achieve full closure, I decided to tell this girl he was seeing, that he wanted to keep me there as his second option. Now, they're over. I feel terrible about this, but at the same time I think about how much he put me through and how he deserved it. But I can't help feeling guilty. I guess I'm trying to battle my own feelings here because last time I made the mistake of calling to "apologise". He told me to leave him alone and I understood that and did. But then he gave me a text msg saying "I hope you're happy." afterwards. Later on, he called me asking why I would do that.Should I talk to him? Should I apologise? Should I leave it alone?I know I should cut off all communication but my "care" for this guy is intense and there's still a hint of it, no matter how much he has hurt me in the past. I promised I'd always be there for him, but how can I, if I'm the one that caused this problem? I don't know whether to call simply because I was the problem and I don't want to be hurt listening to him talk about this girl. This guy was my first love.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Nope, you SURELY do not owe him an apology. He is just pissed of that he got caught doing something "wrong" and who is easier to blame then you? If he can blame you, he doesn't have to take responsibility for his own actions.
Let the loser go, put him in the past. Stop taking to him, stop worrying about him. He'll get over it and find some new chick to use.
Time to move on.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (29 November 2010):
 I don't think you owe him anything. His girlfriend had a right to know what was going on and what he was doing to her.
I don't think you were wrong for telling her as I would want to know if my bf or significant other was doing something like that.
Don't contact him. It sounds like he had issues letting you go too, just move on. And you weren't the problem, his inability to keep his penis in his pants and his loyalty to one woman is the problem.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 No, leave it alone.
What you did maybe was wrong, but if you are honest with yourself, you'll see that the "apologies " would be just an excuse . What bothers you most now it's not that you did something questionable ,- but that he is out of your reach . You just want to find some way to still be in touch with him, even if that should mean arguing.But in this way , you 'd have a much harder time in moving on, as instead you should do ASAP.
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